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> sending more messages before a response signals social awkwardness and desperation. I just fundamentally disagree. I'll often have text convos where we're
by Ntrails 11y ago
> sending more messages before a response signals social awkwardness and desperation.
I just fundamentally disagree. I'll often have text convos where we're both spitballing multiple messages and crossed thoughts all because each individual line is sent separately. Similarly when replying to someone who sent me a long message I will often have a send event per point.
Facebook, for example, has a "shift to send" option which pretty much encapsulates this thinking of each pseudo paragraph will be a separate message and that's fine, normal, it'll only show as one "new" message on my facebook homepage.
Equating voicemail/email to IM is just absurd since they represent longform communication mediums, not shortform ones.
- morgante 11y agoTo be clear, I don't actually think this means you're desperate. I'm just offering an alternative (and, in my view, more consistent) explanation for the survey's results.
- darkerside 11y agoBut I assume you're doing this with a friend with whom you often text. It's a totally different situation when you're texting with an acquaintance, especially a new one. You have less history to base judgments off of, so you rely on heuristics to a much greater degree (the above quote being one of them).