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So the takeaway is always send less words as you don't know on what device the recipient will read it. You can guess however where the user will read your mess

So the takeaway is always send less words as you don't know on what device the recipient will read it. You can guess however where the user will read your message on. Business related it's most probably an email client on a desktop. Sending personal messages most likely on phone. So format accordingly. In this sitation its better to format: "Hey! It was great meeting you! Pretty sure my ears will be ringing for the next week haha" And then wait for the girls reply. Regardless on the device she reads, it will look good and doesn't come off as needy. Then your next message will be to ask her out on Saturday. And if she doesn't reply, she's not into you and leave it there ;) Or we should invent responsive texts, depending on the device it adds or removes words...

objectivistbrit 11y ago
> So the takeaway is always send less words as you don't know on what device the recipient will read it. The real takeaway is to learn to judge the character of the people you meet, and not to waste time with vapid morons who are intimidated by four paragraph messages. How are you going to have any kind of meaningful adult relationship with such a creature? Even assuming that you don't want a relationship, and merely want to navigate her arbitrary tests for long enough to score a quick sexual fling -- what's the point? You jumped through some hoops and scored a pointless hedonistic trophy. Whoop. This is my problem with advice like yours. You change your behaviour to avoid coming across as "needy" -- but you're still making your primary goal winning the approval of an irrational person. Be more selective, know your own value, understand what kind of person you value -- then just be straightforward and direct when you do meet that kind of person.
- jasonwen 11y ago
  I wish the world was just like you described. Everyone be a rational meaningful responsible adult. But it's far from perfect and to fit in you need to adjust and then suddenly people call you "social". This applies for interacting with people, businesses, be to the point, and concise, so there's less noise for misinterpretation.
  - objectivistbrit 11y ago
    Most aren't, but some are. You give up something priceless if you adjust to fit in -- and though it's hard not to, you don't need to.
    - jasonwen 11y ago
      I think age has to do something with this too. I'm in my twenties and I do both have groups of friends who are working and who are student. Obviously maturity and responsibility comes with age and experience.

objectivistbrit 11y ago

> So the takeaway is always send less words as you don't know on what device the recipient will read it. The real takeaway is to learn to judge the character of the people you meet, and not to waste time with vapid morons who are intimidated by four paragraph messages. How are you going to have any kind of meaningful adult relationship with such a creature? Even assuming that you don't want a relationship, and merely want to navigate her arbitrary tests for long enough to score a quick sexual fling -- what's the point? You jumped through some hoops and scored a pointless hedonistic trophy. Whoop. This is my problem with advice like yours. You change your behaviour to avoid coming across as "needy" -- but you're still making your primary goal winning the approval of an irrational person. Be more selective, know your own value, understand what kind of person you value -- then just be straightforward and direct when you do meet that kind of person.

jasonwen 11y ago
I wish the world was just like you described. Everyone be a rational meaningful responsible adult. But it's far from perfect and to fit in you need to adjust and then suddenly people call you "social". This applies for interacting with people, businesses, be to the point, and concise, so there's less noise for misinterpretation.
- objectivistbrit 11y ago
  Most aren't, but some are. You give up something priceless if you adjust to fit in -- and though it's hard not to, you don't need to.
  - jasonwen 11y ago
    I think age has to do something with this too. I'm in my twenties and I do both have groups of friends who are working and who are student. Obviously maturity and responsibility comes with age and experience.