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> every women I did meet online immediately ran background checks Are you serious? Women actually run background checks on dates? I don't know where to begin

> every women I did meet online immediately ran background checks Are you serious? Women actually run background checks on dates? I don't know where to begin with my questions. Did you tell the women about your background, or they just do it on everyone? What company or service does these checks? Don't they have to get authorization from you to do a check? Wouldn't this be expensive? Is this something typical in the country/community where you live (and where is that)?

wtvanhest 11y ago
He probably means they just googled his name. If it's an uncommon name and he has multiple felonies, they will find him.
SixSigma 11y ago
We have Clare's Law (or rather The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme) in the UK where you can find out if you partner has a record for domestic violence. http://content.met.police.uk/Article/Domestic-Violence-Disclosure-Scheme---Clares-Law/1400022792812/1400022792812 http://content.met.police.uk/Article/Domestic-Violence-Discl...
datapat 11y ago
>Are you serious? Are you seriously so mind-blown at the idea that women (often mothers of young children) might want to have as much information as possible about a person who they don't know, but who they're considering allowing into their lives? >I don't know where to begin with my questions. Google?
Blackthorn 11y ago
It doesn't seem too outlandish to me. Date rape is a thing that happens with depressing frequency. Women have to be constantly alert, and if something happens to them everyone will tell them that they deserved it or did something to bring it on. In that sort of an environment, you'd damn well better expect background checks.
xlm1717 11y ago
They do this for their own safety. It might not be fair if what is in someone's background check doesn't reflect who they are today. They may be truly remorseful for red flags that show up. But then again, they may not, and the woman just saved themselves the trouble of gambling on someone with a record. They don't have to get authorization from you if the records are public. And it seems like a small price to pay for safety.

wtvanhest 11y ago

He probably means they just googled his name. If it's an uncommon name and he has multiple felonies, they will find him.

SixSigma 11y ago

We have Clare's Law (or rather The Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme) in the UK where you can find out if you partner has a record for domestic violence. http://content.met.police.uk/Article/Domestic-Violence-Disclosure-Scheme---Clares-Law/1400022792812/1400022792812 http://content.met.police.uk/Article/Domestic-Violence-Discl...

datapat 11y ago

>Are you serious? Are you seriously so mind-blown at the idea that women (often mothers of young children) might want to have as much information as possible about a person who they don't know, but who they're considering allowing into their lives? >I don't know where to begin with my questions. Google?

Blackthorn 11y ago

It doesn't seem too outlandish to me. Date rape is a thing that happens with depressing frequency. Women have to be constantly alert, and if something happens to them everyone will tell them that they deserved it or did something to bring it on. In that sort of an environment, you'd damn well better expect background checks.

xlm1717 11y ago

They do this for their own safety. It might not be fair if what is in someone's background check doesn't reflect who they are today. They may be truly remorseful for red flags that show up. But then again, they may not, and the woman just saved themselves the trouble of gambling on someone with a record. They don't have to get authorization from you if the records are public. And it seems like a small price to pay for safety.