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My brother committed suicide after facing a prison sentence. It is a really difficult thing that when you meet people (even for years afterwards, it still happe

by froo 11y ago

My brother committed suicide after facing a prison sentence. It is a really difficult thing that when you meet people (even for years afterwards, it still happens to this day 13 years on) and they just want to talk about the circumstances behind his suicide and the things that get him to that point. Having people consistently drag it up for you really hurts at times. I also have experienced the name-calling thing. My mother, at times, ends up calling me by my brother's name. I think that is the hardest thing at times, because clearly she's not over it (he shot himself with her in the next room). I really do feel for Noah. It's not something you ever truly get over (here I am posting about it 13 years on), just something you just got to learn to deal with. I found that for me, I had to find a healthy coping mechanism/hobby to get through those first few years. Life still goes on man.

tim333 11y ago
Good luck. It surprises me that the US supports such a vicious law enforcement system compared to the rest of the developed world - I'm a Brit and ours leans the other way towards being a bit easy going.
- froo 11y ago
  It should be noted that I live in Australia, so our law enforcement system is relatively lax too. However, my father also died of a heart attack a little over a year beforehand, so I'm sure that was part of it, but I'm sure the jail term was about 90% of what was on his mind at the time. I only wanted to share just in case Noah ever reads this. Things do eventually get better.
- megablast 11y ago
  It is not all so easy going in the UK: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Jean_Charles_de_Menezes https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Jean_Charles_de_Menez...
  - snowy 11y ago
    These cases are unrelated in anyway. How can you compare the death of a man shot by police on the underground because of been confused with a terrorist, with a person driven to suicide because they are facing a jail sentence?
  - ryanlol 11y ago
    Isn't that a perfect example of a far too easy going legal system? None of the officers that murdered this man were prosecuted.
dclowd9901 11y ago
It's probably little consolation, but my mom confuses my name and the dog's name. I think it's just a mom thing.
nchelluri 11y ago
11yrs for me; I actually grew kind of used to the name-calling thing. I don't go home a whole lot but try to spend a few days with my parents 1-3x a year, and I feel like all is back to normal when they call me my brother's name. We're all "home" again. Different experiences for different people :) (P.S. My brother was not facing incarceration but had significant mental illness, just feel like I can identify with the loss. Do not believe anybody really close will, you like said, truly get over it. Time really does not heal all wounds.)

by froo 11y ago

tim333 11y ago

Good luck. It surprises me that the US supports such a vicious law enforcement system compared to the rest of the developed world - I'm a Brit and ours leans the other way towards being a bit easy going.

froo 11y ago
It should be noted that I live in Australia, so our law enforcement system is relatively lax too. However, my father also died of a heart attack a little over a year beforehand, so I'm sure that was part of it, but I'm sure the jail term was about 90% of what was on his mind at the time. I only wanted to share just in case Noah ever reads this. Things do eventually get better.
megablast 11y ago
It is not all so easy going in the UK: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Jean_Charles_de_Menezes https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Jean_Charles_de_Menez...
- snowy 11y ago
  These cases are unrelated in anyway. How can you compare the death of a man shot by police on the underground because of been confused with a terrorist, with a person driven to suicide because they are facing a jail sentence?
- ryanlol 11y ago
  Isn't that a perfect example of a far too easy going legal system? None of the officers that murdered this man were prosecuted.

dclowd9901 11y ago

It's probably little consolation, but my mom confuses my name and the dog's name. I think it's just a mom thing.

nchelluri 11y ago

11yrs for me; I actually grew kind of used to the name-calling thing. I don't go home a whole lot but try to spend a few days with my parents 1-3x a year, and I feel like all is back to normal when they call me my brother's name. We're all "home" again. Different experiences for different people :) (P.S. My brother was not facing incarceration but had significant mental illness, just feel like I can identify with the loss. Do not believe anybody really close will, you like said, truly get over it. Time really does not heal all wounds.)