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I think this applies closely. I am surprised that the tendency to compulsively lie is not also in the Wikipedia definition.

by algirau 11y ago

p4wnc6 11y ago
But when it comes to something as medically severe as psychopathy isn't it the whole point that it shouldn't matter what you, or me, or any layperson thinks? If you already don't like this coworker because of disagreements and actions at work, you're very likely to overestimate these symptoms, or believe that someone who is only a little ways along the spectrum to psychopath is actually much further. Imagine if we believed everyone who went through a bad breakup or divorce and called their ex partner a psychopath out of anger (even justified anger). It just seems really extreme to use some armchair diagnosis from someone emotionally invested in believing bad things about the other person.
- algirau 11y ago
  This isn't as juvenile as a dislike. I spent my PhD on the technology for this company and licensed it from a tier 1 university and started the company. This individual (hindsight is 20/20) coerced me to make probably the worst decision by giving him fully vested equity only to leave for a different opportunity after and yet wish to have a say on issues that are Board issues. Again this post was a message to any founder finding a partner. Things may be rosy in the beginning but if you are paired with someone who fundamentally is only motivated by money they will always choose their own interest over the company. Even if that means actively sabotaging and slandering. Again I do not want to air dirty laundry but I was landed the unfortunate worst case scenario. Anyone who thinks that I am being one sided is allowed to have that prerogative. I cannot give full details but please imagine the worse situation you can get into with a first partner, I am talking them trying to smear your reputation and sabotaging the company in order to get their way, not just some friendship that went bad. Please proceed with caution and do not be overly trustworthy. If anyone wants to know more I would be happy to talk directly. But I'm sharing this because founders with genuine intentions and the ones who get damaged the most by individuals like this.
  - dfraser992 11y ago
    Hi, I am quite sure I have a good idea of what you're going thru (see my comment history for my rants). I have vented enough over the past 2 years and all the stress has burned out, so I'm over it all (I think). But I can't help but offer support whenever someone raises this sort of topic... Your problem seems, based on what you say, a lot more narcissistic than the guys I had to deal with - yes, that is actually a positive, believe me. The problem is obvious... I lost 5 years of my life to this stupid startup and got little out of it except some harsh life lessons. Good luck, and if you don't have a lawyer, get one.
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I think this applies closely. I am surprised that the tendency to compulsively lie is not also in the Wikipedia definition.

by algirau 11y ago

I think this applies closely. I am surprised that the tendency to compulsively lie is not also in the Wikipedia definition.

p4wnc6 11y ago

But when it comes to something as medically severe as psychopathy isn't it the whole point that it shouldn't matter what you, or me, or any layperson thinks? If you already don't like this coworker because of disagreements and actions at work, you're very likely to overestimate these symptoms, or believe that someone who is only a little ways along the spectrum to psychopath is actually much further. Imagine if we believed everyone who went through a bad breakup or divorce and called their ex partner a psychopath out of anger (even justified anger). It just seems really extreme to use some armchair diagnosis from someone emotionally invested in believing bad things about the other person.

algirau 11y ago
This isn't as juvenile as a dislike. I spent my PhD on the technology for this company and licensed it from a tier 1 university and started the company. This individual (hindsight is 20/20) coerced me to make probably the worst decision by giving him fully vested equity only to leave for a different opportunity after and yet wish to have a say on issues that are Board issues. Again this post was a message to any founder finding a partner. Things may be rosy in the beginning but if you are paired with someone who fundamentally is only motivated by money they will always choose their own interest over the company. Even if that means actively sabotaging and slandering. Again I do not want to air dirty laundry but I was landed the unfortunate worst case scenario. Anyone who thinks that I am being one sided is allowed to have that prerogative. I cannot give full details but please imagine the worse situation you can get into with a first partner, I am talking them trying to smear your reputation and sabotaging the company in order to get their way, not just some friendship that went bad. Please proceed with caution and do not be overly trustworthy. If anyone wants to know more I would be happy to talk directly. But I'm sharing this because founders with genuine intentions and the ones who get damaged the most by individuals like this.
- dfraser992 11y ago
  Hi, I am quite sure I have a good idea of what you're going thru (see my comment history for my rants). I have vented enough over the past 2 years and all the stress has burned out, so I'm over it all (I think). But I can't help but offer support whenever someone raises this sort of topic... Your problem seems, based on what you say, a lot more narcissistic than the guys I had to deal with - yes, that is actually a positive, believe me. The problem is obvious... I lost 5 years of my life to this stupid startup and got little out of it except some harsh life lessons. Good luck, and if you don't have a lawyer, get one.
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