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Without knowing the details: Confronting the person (after HR said not to!) was a terrible decision, and probably made the person extremely uncomfortable. Then
by ohitsdom 11y ago
Without knowing the details:
Confronting the person (after HR said not to!) was a terrible decision, and probably made the person extremely uncomfortable. Then following up with that person to contact HR sounds like straight harassment. I get that the author may have had honest intentions, but the party that initiated the complaint clearly was uncomfortable with contact. It sucks and it's awkward, but at that point you need to leave it.
- sjs382 11y ago> Confronting the person (after HR said not to!) was a terrible decision, and probably made the person extremely uncomfortable. And to expand on that: It probably made the person extremely uncomfortable, even if the said person told you that it didn't. During your interaction with them, their priority may have been (and probably was) to end the interaction ASAP without escalation or conflict.
- anon4 11y agoAbsolutely - when a person cannot act as an adult in the real world, the LAST THING you want to do is have any contact with them. HR are obligated to side with the female in practically every situation short of physical assault on her part, as anything else opens them up for some serious litigation. Just think of her as a bully - give her a wide berth while passing her on the corridor, don't stay in common areas when she's there if you can help it, and if you ever get invited to the same party as her by a mutual friend, stay at the other end of the room. Best of all, if you can, quit your job. You don't want toxic people in your life.