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15 years ago, freshly employed, less than 25 years old, introverted and socially awkward, I had a work colleague as well to which I wrote a romantic poem (for h
by fearface 11y ago
15 years ago, freshly employed, less than 25 years old, introverted and socially awkward, I had a work colleague as well to which I wrote a romantic poem (for her, more or less out of the blue). It wasn't received well. Not well at all. I had trouble understanding her dismissal and insisted on that she gave me signs of affection.
HR was involved briefly, my story sounded so similar to what OP writes.
But in my case, she quit the job. Years later, I realised my self-delusion.
- djtriptych 11y agoBrave of you to share that experience. Thank you
- totalrobe 11y agoThis is why you should party or at least socialize widely in college. To get all that weird socially awkward shit over with before you're in the workplace and it impacts yours or another's career.
- fearface 11y ago:-) I agree 100%. I missed that chance by isolating myself and spending every free minute in front of the computer.
- k__ 11y agoWell, many people did. The older we get, the harder it becomes to realize when you're wrong. Life isn't about always being right, it is about learning what is right. Met people of 23 who got it, met people of 37 who don't.
- Johnny555 11y agoThe socialization skills I learned in college didn't really help me at my first corporate job where the rules are completely different.
- ConfuciusSay 11y agoYou mean tea-bagging your passed out co-worker at the Christmas party is not appropriate?
- DrScump 11y agoMaybe I'm too cynical, but I kinda read that as "sexual harassment in college doesn't count".
- mercer 11y agoI assumed that 'within the boundaries of acceptable human behavior' was an implicit assumption, but I've actually heard an uncomfortably large amount of people defend unacceptable behavior as 'college acceptable'. So perhaps you're not too cynical. I've been described more than once as too naïve :).
- totalrobe 11y agoMany high achievers grow up in a bubble through high school and many not understand if their behavior comes off as extremely creepy until they interact more widely and get negative reactions. I'm saying maybe it's better to learn how to socialize in a place that doesn't have extreme financial repercussions.
- Overtonwindow 11y agoSounds like that scene from God Bless America. If you haven't seen the HR scene it's probably very similar to what many people have experienced. I learned long ago that workplace friendships, and colleagues, are to be treated as absolutely professional. End of story. Too much on the line and too many quick to judge, be offended, etc.