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When I gave up looking for a partner I found my future wife. It happened in 6 months> (we took 2 years to decide to marry). She is my best friend and after 30

• rokhayakebe 11y ago
  Give up looking. Don't give up Hope/Faith/Belief whatever you want to call it.
  • epalmer 11y ago
    Exactly. Trying hard was getting in my way. Stop trying and let it happen. That is the way it worked for me.
• Grishnakh 11y ago
  You don't know how old the GP is. He did say, "...at my age..." He could be 60+, in which case the likelihood of him finding a really great partner really isn't very high, unfortunately. Also he doesn't say, but kinda implies that he's always been single. Usually, people like that never get married. It's sad, but true. Remember, as you get older, you get more set in your ways usually, so it's harder to find compatible people. It's easier when you're in your early 20s and your personalities are still developing: you can "mold into" each other. Obviously, when you "gave up" you must have been rather young for that to have been over 30 years ago, and for kids to have resulted from it. Either that, or you're in your 90s (and your wife is several decades younger than you), or you're a vampire or something.
  • epalmer 11y ago
    I was late 29 when I gave up looking. Had a date with my future wife on my 30th birthday. Married at 31 (almost 32) and kids significantly later. So I'm 62 and have a 23 year old and an 18 year old.