the problem with clinginess is it encroaches on other peoples' feelings of abundance. that's why it's so unattractive. the clinginess fades as you get older,

the problem with clinginess is it encroaches on other peoples' feelings of abundance. that's why it's so unattractive. the clinginess fades as you get older, after you realize most people (including yourself) are kind of "meh", and if feelings aren't reciprocated/mutual, you're running a fool's errand and wasting valuable mental energy and time (the specific resource you were so concerned about in the first place).