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Articles like these make it seem really hard to avoid a scarcity mindset. I get desperate, clingy toward people and experiences since every advice columnist say
by nether 11y ago
Articles like these make it seem really hard to avoid a scarcity mindset. I get desperate, clingy toward people and experiences since every advice columnist says "life is short!" and this may be my last chance at happiness. But meanwhile you're supposed to think otherwise with a feeling of abundance, even if that doesn't reflect reality.
- JoeAltmaier 11y agoI take it as a caution to continue making relationships with new people. I was involved in Scouting for 20 years, and never stopped meeting people. I now know the kids of some Scouts I first met!
- beachstartup 11y agothe problem with clinginess is it encroaches on other peoples' feelings of abundance. that's why it's so unattractive. the clinginess fades as you get older, after you realize most people (including yourself) are kind of "meh", and if feelings aren't reciprocated/mutual, you're running a fool's errand and wasting valuable mental energy and time (the specific resource you were so concerned about in the first place).
- reinhardt 11y agoConversely, articles like this remind me I'm just a dust in the wind that exists for a speck of time; a few less friends here or few more books there mean nothing in the grand scheme of things, so don't sweat it. I'm repelled and paralysed by the thought of death as much as the average guy but "fear of missing out" is not among the reasons.