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Only if your best relationships are with people you met in high school. My best relationships right now are with my wife and my close friends in the same city

by autarch 11y ago

Only if your best relationships are with people you met in high school. My best relationships right now are with my wife and my close friends in the same city as I live in. I see them a lot more than I see people from high school (which is never).

wtbob 11y ago
> Only if your best relationships are with people you met in high school. Or, as in this case, with one's parents and siblings. Which seems reasonable to me: as much as I like the folks I went to high school & college with, my parents and brothers are the people I'm closest too. No doubt were I married my wife would be an exception … but at my age I've accepted that will never happen.
- rokhayakebe 11y ago
  but at my age I've accepted that will never happen. Being totally judgmental: As a hack, why not try and think differently about this for 2016 as in "now I am at the right age and ready to find a companion."
  - epalmer 11y ago
    When I gave up looking for a partner I found my future wife. It happened in 6 months> (we took 2 years to decide to marry). She is my best friend and after 30 years our relationship is getting stronger and stronger every year. Next to my wife my kids are everything.
    - rokhayakebe 11y ago
      Give up looking. Don't give up Hope/Faith/Belief whatever you want to call it.
      - epalmer 11y ago
        Exactly. Trying hard was getting in my way. Stop trying and let it happen. That is the way it worked for me.
    - Grishnakh 11y ago
      You don't know how old the GP is. He did say, "...at my age..." He could be 60+, in which case the likelihood of him finding a really great partner really isn't very high, unfortunately. Also he doesn't say, but kinda implies that he's always been single. Usually, people like that never get married. It's sad, but true. Remember, as you get older, you get more set in your ways usually, so it's harder to find compatible people. It's easier when you're in your early 20s and your personalities are still developing: you can "mold into" each other. Obviously, when you "gave up" you must have been rather young for that to have been over 30 years ago, and for kids to have resulted from it. Either that, or you're in your 90s (and your wife is several decades younger than you), or you're a vampire or something.
      - epalmer 11y ago
        I was late 29 when I gave up looking. Had a date with my future wife on my 30th birthday. Married at 31 (almost 32) and kids significantly later. So I'm 62 and have a 23 year old and an 18 year old.
eric-hu 11y ago
The author makes no mention of friends. The 90% figure comes from the frequency with which he currently sees his parents and sisters. The title is link-bait-y, but I think there's actually some substance there: by 30, you've seen 90% of the days you'll spend in person with siblings and parents.

by autarch 11y ago

wtbob 11y ago

> Only if your best relationships are with people you met in high school. Or, as in this case, with one's parents and siblings. Which seems reasonable to me: as much as I like the folks I went to high school & college with, my parents and brothers are the people I'm closest too. No doubt were I married my wife would be an exception … but at my age I've accepted that will never happen.

rokhayakebe 11y ago
but at my age I've accepted that will never happen. Being totally judgmental: As a hack, why not try and think differently about this for 2016 as in "now I am at the right age and ready to find a companion."
- epalmer 11y ago
  When I gave up looking for a partner I found my future wife. It happened in 6 months> (we took 2 years to decide to marry). She is my best friend and after 30 years our relationship is getting stronger and stronger every year. Next to my wife my kids are everything.
  - rokhayakebe 11y ago
    Give up looking. Don't give up Hope/Faith/Belief whatever you want to call it.
    - epalmer 11y ago
      Exactly. Trying hard was getting in my way. Stop trying and let it happen. That is the way it worked for me.
  - Grishnakh 11y ago
    You don't know how old the GP is. He did say, "...at my age..." He could be 60+, in which case the likelihood of him finding a really great partner really isn't very high, unfortunately. Also he doesn't say, but kinda implies that he's always been single. Usually, people like that never get married. It's sad, but true. Remember, as you get older, you get more set in your ways usually, so it's harder to find compatible people. It's easier when you're in your early 20s and your personalities are still developing: you can "mold into" each other. Obviously, when you "gave up" you must have been rather young for that to have been over 30 years ago, and for kids to have resulted from it. Either that, or you're in your 90s (and your wife is several decades younger than you), or you're a vampire or something.
    - epalmer 11y ago
      I was late 29 when I gave up looking. Had a date with my future wife on my 30th birthday. Married at 31 (almost 32) and kids significantly later. So I'm 62 and have a 23 year old and an 18 year old.

eric-hu 11y ago

The author makes no mention of friends. The 90% figure comes from the frequency with which he currently sees his parents and sisters. The title is link-bait-y, but I think there's actually some substance there: by 30, you've seen 90% of the days you'll spend in person with siblings and parents.