a life must be balanced around certain principles; we feel it and we see the undesirable results when it is unbalanced; recalibrating -- adjusting boundaries in

a life must be balanced around certain principles; we feel it and we see the undesirable results when it is unbalanced; recalibrating -- adjusting boundaries in our lives -- is often necessary, as Pham illustrates. these boundaries must be derived from a respect for one's self, one's work (regardless of whether you are paid for that work or not -- e.g., a poet often is not), and one's family. however, we must never throw magnanimity out the window wholesale; it would be a travesty to abandon such an essential virtue. "Why I Quit Being So Accommodating" is a great essay that showed up on HN some time back; worth a read for a fuller treatment of this topic. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4969041 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4969041