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I saw the special and I honestly think that's a myth, at least most of the time. It just seems like a rationalization, the guys can tell themselves they can't

I saw the special and I honestly think that's a myth, at least most of the time. It just seems like a rationalization, the guys can tell themselves they can't find a suitable mate and have to pay these women, the women can say and think they're paid for more than just sex, everyone wins, it's not just high dollar prostitution. The other thing that the kind of guys who pay for super-high-priced call girls want is silence, silence regardless of who asks and silence when a tabloid offers $10k for the story. To me that's much more logical than a rich, educated guy not being able to find an educated female to converse with. It might be true to some degree but the reason you pay a hooker isn't for the sex, it's for the discretion. Think about it for a second, if she's hot and educated and can be with him in public, why doesn't he just marry her? He's rich, she wants money, it's almost perfect. Why do they maintain the prostitute and john relationship?

gcheong 17y ago
"Why do they maintain the prostitute and john relationship?" Financial diversification for the prostitute, and selection diversification for the john (and maybe the prostitute as well).
Mz 17y ago
Think about it for a second, if she's hot and educated and can be with him in public, why doesn't he just marry her? If he wants to keep enjoying a certain quality of experience, marriage may not be the best means to get that. Wives usually stop dressing as well as they did when they were dating. Housework takes more of her time and energy. There are endless jokes about women having no energy for sex after doing housework and raising kids all day. A woman who is expected to look good 24/7 and "perform" for him at the drop of a hat...well, it's not very realistic. A prostitute only has to meet that standard during work hours and can then go home, take off her high heels and make-up, and not care what he would think about it because he isn't there anymore to judge her.
- Nelson69 17y ago
  Yes but we're not talking about a typical love marriage, are we? Those are things that could be put in a prenuptial agreement. Then to social taboo goes away, "she's his wife." Or rather, how about high dollar matchmaking services instead?
  - pstuart 17y ago
    It sounds like 'leasing' rather than 'renting', both of which are different than 'buying'.
  - Mz 17y ago
    Years ago, I read a biography of a prostitute. She got married after becoming a prostitute. Very early in the relationship, she told him bluntly that she can go out to dinner at a nice restaurant and get laid with any of her clients and if he didn't have more to offer her, why should she see him? According to the book "More work for mother", homemakers today work about 60 hours a week -- the same as homemakers did 300 years ago. The book is the history of technology in the home -- ie of "labor saving devices" like vacuum cleaners. Such inventions apparently saved male labor, not female labor. Vacuum cleaners meant men stopped having to beat the rugs and women took over the task of cleaning rugs. Women who work full time jobs still do 40 hours of housework a week. Men have endeavored to pick up some of the slack. It amounts to them doing, on average, about 10 minutes more a day or an hour and ten minutes a week -- which doesn't begin to make up for the 20 hours of labor she is no longer doing. With a 50% divorce rate (in the US), I don't think your typical marriage involves Wuv, Twu Wuv (a la Princess Bride). But all the statistics and anecdotes I am familiar with indicate that it does typically involve a great deal of domestic labor on the part of the woman. And, statistically, men with a full-time wife/homemaker climb the corporate ladder faster and make more money on average. I don't think you can replicate that outcome by removing a wife's domestic duties and replacing her with someone who looks good on your arm and is great in bed. This is likely why we have a historical tradition of wealthy men having both a wife and a mistress: The two women play very different roles in his life. And the two women likely want very different things from the relationship. (Perhaps both would ideally like the same thing. But most people are unable to arrange some ideal relationship. When faced with compromising, different people have different priorities.) In short, I think it is a mistake to think that the same woman in different circumstances would have the same thing to offer. The act of marrying her changes her (or at least changes her relationship to him, for good or for ill). If a man likes what he is getting from an escort service, marrying his favorite escort does not mean he will get more of the same. As for social taboos: People still talk when a wealthy man marries a much younger, very beautiful woman. It is generally assumed to be "an arrangement", not love, and still gets frowned upon.

gcheong 17y ago

"Why do they maintain the prostitute and john relationship?" Financial diversification for the prostitute, and selection diversification for the john (and maybe the prostitute as well).

Mz 17y ago

Think about it for a second, if she's hot and educated and can be with him in public, why doesn't he just marry her? If he wants to keep enjoying a certain quality of experience, marriage may not be the best means to get that. Wives usually stop dressing as well as they did when they were dating. Housework takes more of her time and energy. There are endless jokes about women having no energy for sex after doing housework and raising kids all day. A woman who is expected to look good 24/7 and "perform" for him at the drop of a hat...well, it's not very realistic. A prostitute only has to meet that standard during work hours and can then go home, take off her high heels and make-up, and not care what he would think about it because he isn't there anymore to judge her.

Nelson69 17y ago
Yes but we're not talking about a typical love marriage, are we? Those are things that could be put in a prenuptial agreement. Then to social taboo goes away, "she's his wife." Or rather, how about high dollar matchmaking services instead?
- pstuart 17y ago
  It sounds like 'leasing' rather than 'renting', both of which are different than 'buying'.
- Mz 17y ago
  Years ago, I read a biography of a prostitute. She got married after becoming a prostitute. Very early in the relationship, she told him bluntly that she can go out to dinner at a nice restaurant and get laid with any of her clients and if he didn't have more to offer her, why should she see him? According to the book "More work for mother", homemakers today work about 60 hours a week -- the same as homemakers did 300 years ago. The book is the history of technology in the home -- ie of "labor saving devices" like vacuum cleaners. Such inventions apparently saved male labor, not female labor. Vacuum cleaners meant men stopped having to beat the rugs and women took over the task of cleaning rugs. Women who work full time jobs still do 40 hours of housework a week. Men have endeavored to pick up some of the slack. It amounts to them doing, on average, about 10 minutes more a day or an hour and ten minutes a week -- which doesn't begin to make up for the 20 hours of labor she is no longer doing. With a 50% divorce rate (in the US), I don't think your typical marriage involves Wuv, Twu Wuv (a la Princess Bride). But all the statistics and anecdotes I am familiar with indicate that it does typically involve a great deal of domestic labor on the part of the woman. And, statistically, men with a full-time wife/homemaker climb the corporate ladder faster and make more money on average. I don't think you can replicate that outcome by removing a wife's domestic duties and replacing her with someone who looks good on your arm and is great in bed. This is likely why we have a historical tradition of wealthy men having both a wife and a mistress: The two women play very different roles in his life. And the two women likely want very different things from the relationship. (Perhaps both would ideally like the same thing. But most people are unable to arrange some ideal relationship. When faced with compromising, different people have different priorities.) In short, I think it is a mistake to think that the same woman in different circumstances would have the same thing to offer. The act of marrying her changes her (or at least changes her relationship to him, for good or for ill). If a man likes what he is getting from an escort service, marrying his favorite escort does not mean he will get more of the same. As for social taboos: People still talk when a wealthy man marries a much younger, very beautiful woman. It is generally assumed to be "an arrangement", not love, and still gets frowned upon.