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My co worker accuses other people of being "tone deaf" and then makes dick jokes. I have about a million examples of this. Of course, some of those stories are
by kelukelugames 11y ago
My co worker accuses other people of being "tone deaf" and then makes dick jokes. I have about a million examples of this. Of course, some of those stories are about me. :P
People are too unwilling to admit and learn from their own mistakes.
- CaptSpify 11y ago> "tone deaf" and then makes dick jokes What does "tone deaf" mean in this context? And what's wrong with dick-jokes? EDIT: I've poorly worded my question/point: I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with dick jokes in the workplace, but context is key. It's probably best to side on safe in that regard I still would like to know what "tone deaf" means as I'm not understanding that term
- kelukelugames 11y agoDo you really think it's okay to make dick jokes in the workplace?
- CaptSpify 11y agoYes, although I do work in a uniquely sex-positive environment. I do believe that it heavily depends on the workplace. Some workplaces it is absolutely not OK. I'm a personality type that would rather work in an "unprofessional" environment, so I seek those out, while understanding that they may not be for everybody.
- humanrebar 11y agoDid you mean to imply that people who like to keep their sexuality personal are not sex positive? I'm pretty open about things, but I'm also open to the idea that people don't always appreciate sharing.
- CaptSpify 11y agoI concede I didn't really make my point clear due to poor wording. What I mean is: I don't think dick-jokes are inherently wrong for the workplace. I think context is the key. I worked at a Fortune-500 where they were absolutely not acceptable, but I tend towards places where they are acceptable. > Did you mean to imply that people who like to keep their sexuality personal are not sex positive? Heh, not at all. I'm a very private person when it comes to sex, but I'm also sex-positive.
- humanrebar 11y agoFair enough. > I don't think dick-jokes are inherently wrong for the workplace. It's probably about as appropriate as discussing religion or politics. It's certainly possible, but there is a lot of risk that toes will get stepped on eventually, even if nobody says they were offended.
- oldmanjay 11y agoWhat about the concept of a penis is offensive exactly? No one has ever been able to give me a reason that doesn't devolve into a repetition of "you just don't talk about that" and I'm not prepared to care about that.
- leaverou 11y agoTHIS. There is nothing wrong with dick jokes. The only sexist thing about them is the imbalance: We need more vulva jokes too :)
- drumdance 11y agoI generally agree, but consider that talking about a dick is not just about anatomy. If you call someone a dick, it means he's an overly aggressive asshole. If you call someone a pussy, it means he's weak. If you joke about the size of someone's dick, it means he's insecure. Etc.
- lloyd-christmas 11y agoMy female Australian boss says "dumb cunts" roughly 5x a day in reference to some 22 year old marketing "woo"-girls down the hall. I just made a comment about how my balls hang down my left pant leg. In my prior job, I'd never even bring up politics. It's almost as if people and environments are different.
- throwaway999888 11y agoIt would seem more abnormal if you knew an Australian that didn't use the word cunt liberally.
- pdex 11y agoI'd be more irked by the comment she made about your balls hanging down your pant leg. Sounds like sexual harassment to me, if it were me wouldn't let a boss speak to me in that fashion- male or female.
- lloyd-christmas 11y agoI made that comment. If it were sexual harassment, I'd treat it as sexual harassment. It's a joke, so I treat it as a joke.
- pdex 11y agoI am truly sorry, I misread your post.
- ghrifter 11y agoI guess "tone deaf" is when someone doesn't understand what your tone of voice is and what that tone implies. Like if you say something sarcastic, your voice tone and body language conveys it.