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> Most women don't actually care how much their partner makes beyond having some basic financial security. In most of the world (including in the US) a large p
by aianus 11y ago
> Most women don't actually care how much their partner makes beyond having some basic financial security.
In most of the world (including in the US) a large proportion of 23-year-old men don't have basic financial security. So having basic financial security would be a key differentiator. In SV, it's not.
> They care about feelings, and viewpoints, and hobbies, and values, and empathy, and all the things that make a person a person and not just an investment vehicle.
Absolutely. But there's nothing about being rich that means you have bad feelings, negative viewpoints, or lack of hobbies, values and empathy. If anything, the richer you are the more interesting and diverse your stories and experiences will be and the more developed your hobbies and viewpoints.
It's also more difficult to be confident when you're surrounded by people richer and more successful than you day-in and day-out.
- nostrademons 11y agoNothing wrong with being rich. I'm referring to what you focus on, though. If you focus on being rich and are not, then by your own value system, you're a failure. If you focus on being kind - or well-rounded, or athletic, or outdoorsy, or eco-friendly - and are not rich, then who cares? By the standards that you've chosen to live your life, you're a success. I think you might find that people have a surprising variation in values if you don't judge them - or yourself - by the same yardstick. Dating is all about finding the person whose values align with yours, not who is most successful on some arbitrary metric. Think in terms of direction, not magnitude.