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I actually don't think it's true, but it would take a large study to prove anything obviously. My personal experience was that it was much easier to have a flin

by sulam 11y ago

I actually don't think it's true, but it would take a large study to prove anything obviously. My personal experience was that it was much easier to have a fling or some other form of temporary relationship in NYC vs SF. Strictly for context, I spent a portion of my 20's literally living in both cities, without a committed relationship in either location. In NYC you could "get laid" relatively easily, but actually dating was harder. In SF there was more actual dating, which generally led to sex but it took longer. Which one you prefer is going to be a matter of taste obviously -- I actually preferred SF, the hookup culture felt pretty shallow to me. This was all more than a decade ago for me though, and everything I've heard about Tinder and such leads me to believe the hookup culture is pretty active in SF at this point. Life on the Peninsula is probably way worse for dating, simply because it's so much more spread out. And now I need an anonymous posting button for HN. :)

anonypous 11y ago
| And now I need an anonymous posting button for HN. :) That's why I signed up for this alt ;) A lot of other replies have mentioned the ratio. Did you find this to be an issue?
- sulam 11y ago
  The ratio had an effect, but in practice it was manageable. In NY attractive women were common enough that they would pick _me_ up (this was a complete shock to my system the first time it happened). In SF I had to make the first move. I could walk into almost any random bar in NY and be flirting with someone within 5 minutes. In SF I had to pick my venues. 10+ years ago it was already somewhat common in SF to go on a date with someone you met online, but in NY that wasn't a way to casually meet people. In NY working in tech was interesting, not so much in SF. In SF I would meet people at the climbing gym, an outdoor rave, or through work. In NY it was bars, clubs, and through work, although the work hookups were extremely illicit.

by sulam 11y ago

anonypous 11y ago

| And now I need an anonymous posting button for HN. :) That's why I signed up for this alt ;) A lot of other replies have mentioned the ratio. Did you find this to be an issue?

sulam 11y ago
The ratio had an effect, but in practice it was manageable. In NY attractive women were common enough that they would pick _me_ up (this was a complete shock to my system the first time it happened). In SF I had to make the first move. I could walk into almost any random bar in NY and be flirting with someone within 5 minutes. In SF I had to pick my venues. 10+ years ago it was already somewhat common in SF to go on a date with someone you met online, but in NY that wasn't a way to casually meet people. In NY working in tech was interesting, not so much in SF. In SF I would meet people at the climbing gym, an outdoor rave, or through work. In NY it was bars, clubs, and through work, although the work hookups were extremely illicit.