I completely agree that if the purpose of a marriage (or life in general) is to maximize enjoyment, then you definitely don't want to build it around self sacri

I completely agree that if the purpose of a marriage (or life in general) is to maximize enjoyment, then you definitely don't want to build it around self sacrifice. An equally commendable goal, I think, is to become a more caring, empathetic person. In this context, self-sacrifice would take a more central role. Personally, I'm trying for a mix of the two. I want to enjoy my life and marriage as much as possible, but I'll make enjoyment sacrifices if I can look back on my life and be satisfied that they were for the greater good.