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Generalizing that HN women (or any, for that matter) are more likely to have a "stupid number of CC's" or are "digging through a purse for your wallet constantl

by pbreit 11y ago

Generalizing that HN women (or any, for that matter) are more likely to have a "stupid number of CC's" or are "digging through a purse for your wallet constantly" is fairly off-putting.

mreiland 11y ago
Go read the sentence again, only this time take the chip off your shoulder.
- dang 11y ago
  Please stop posting uncivil and/or unsubstantive comments to Hacker News. We've asked you this before.
  - mreiland 11y ago
    Please point me towards the Terms of Service that state I cannot ask someone their gender. I'm tired of you following me around, you obviously want me banned, just do it already.
    - pbreit 11y ago
      I don't really understand the "chip off shoulder" in this context. You seem to think people are objecting to inquiring about gender. I was pointing out that your kinda gross generalizations are as much or more objectionable (and even more so after having just inquired about gender).
      - mreiland 11y ago
        I made that statement because there was no gross generalization being made, that was your own internal bias at work. To explain: When I read the comment I responded to, my first thought was roughly "that's ridiculous, pulling a wallet out of your pocket is in no way difficult ... well, pulling your wallet out of a purse and then opening it up is probably a pita so the poster is probably a woman... well I guess if you had a lot of credit cards you'd have to rifle through them to find the one you want so the poster could be a man, I'll ask". It didn't occur to me anyone would misconstrue that as a sexist statement about women mostly because it wasn't. You read the question and went defensive and it colored the way you perceived the rest of the sentence. hence my telling you to re-read the question without the chip on your shoulder. As an aside, anyone who considers that statement to be uncivil needs to get over themselves. dang just wants me gone, I'm guessing it's when he pulled his crap with another poster I was speaking to and I defended that poster (I value honest opinions over PC bullshit, my skin is thick enough to deal with it). Honestly I should ask for an apology since your misunderstanding kicked all of this off, but dang isn't your fault.
      - pbreit 11y ago
        For reference, here's your message. I'm not sure how it can be interpreted much differently. "Are you female? I ask because I can't imagine it being that much of a hassle unless you're sporting a stupid number of CC's or you're digging through a purse for your wallet constantly."

by pbreit 11y ago

Generalizing that HN women (or any, for that matter) are more likely to have a "stupid number of CC's" or are "digging through a purse for your wallet constantly" is fairly off-putting.

mreiland 11y ago

Go read the sentence again, only this time take the chip off your shoulder.

dang 11y ago
Please stop posting uncivil and/or unsubstantive comments to Hacker News. We've asked you this before.
- mreiland 11y ago
  Please point me towards the Terms of Service that state I cannot ask someone their gender. I'm tired of you following me around, you obviously want me banned, just do it already.
  - pbreit 11y ago
    I don't really understand the "chip off shoulder" in this context. You seem to think people are objecting to inquiring about gender. I was pointing out that your kinda gross generalizations are as much or more objectionable (and even more so after having just inquired about gender).
    - mreiland 11y ago
      I made that statement because there was no gross generalization being made, that was your own internal bias at work. To explain: When I read the comment I responded to, my first thought was roughly "that's ridiculous, pulling a wallet out of your pocket is in no way difficult ... well, pulling your wallet out of a purse and then opening it up is probably a pita so the poster is probably a woman... well I guess if you had a lot of credit cards you'd have to rifle through them to find the one you want so the poster could be a man, I'll ask". It didn't occur to me anyone would misconstrue that as a sexist statement about women mostly because it wasn't. You read the question and went defensive and it colored the way you perceived the rest of the sentence. hence my telling you to re-read the question without the chip on your shoulder. As an aside, anyone who considers that statement to be uncivil needs to get over themselves. dang just wants me gone, I'm guessing it's when he pulled his crap with another poster I was speaking to and I defended that poster (I value honest opinions over PC bullshit, my skin is thick enough to deal with it). Honestly I should ask for an apology since your misunderstanding kicked all of this off, but dang isn't your fault.
    - pbreit 11y ago
      For reference, here's your message. I'm not sure how it can be interpreted much differently. "Are you female? I ask because I can't imagine it being that much of a hassle unless you're sporting a stupid number of CC's or you're digging through a purse for your wallet constantly."