This is what I ask myself whenever I feel upset, "Am I over reacting? Am I being overly sensitive?" This is what I ask when someone else is upset at me, "What

This is what I ask myself whenever I feel upset, "Am I over reacting? Am I being overly sensitive?" This is what I ask when someone else is upset at me, "What did I do wrong?" Hopefully, these questions prevent me from being too self-righteous. The downsides are that it takes me a while to understand my mistakes, and I don't get to be smug and self-satisfied.