Great examples, thank you padobson. I especially like the last one (the Nepal trip) as it's a little more challenging to find the right option, as there are alw

Great examples, thank you padobson. I especially like the last one (the Nepal trip) as it's a little more challenging to find the right option, as there are always some grey areas when it comes to what's best (ultimately what was right would be what was right based on the personalities of those involved). Just one thing, I dislike this notion of setting boundaries and building a relationship around self-sacrifice. I realise compromise is part of relationships and sometimes necessary but I don't think it should be central. To me a successful relationship is based on enjoyment. Enjoyment of the way you can share yourself with another, and they can share themselves with you. In my mind it's that which is central, through good times and bad, and the self sacrifice and boundaries only serves to keep a good thing going. Perhaps that's naive, but that's what I believe. I appreciate you didn't intend to suggest otherwise, I just think it's worth remembering that a relationship between two healthy adults shouldn't be based on a burden.