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It really is too bad that we are hardwired to suck at being corrected. It is the source of so much social and organizational inefficiency.

by hashkb 11y ago

danharaj 11y ago
> It really is too bad that we are hardwired to suck at being corrected. Why do you think that? Speak for yourself. The foundation of human society is transmission of knowledge and skills. We spend a great deal of our time learning from others, which involves correction based on observation of others as well as instruction from others. When people are receptive to being corrected, they are very good at being corrected. When they resist being corrected, they are very bad at it. Why do they resist? Probably because we often find ourselves in social situations where accepting criticism from others is considered submissive and a penalty to social standing. People who consider each other equals tend to be very receptive to mutual correction. People who are vying to be the dominant one in a relationship are very hostile towards being corrected.
- jschwartzi 11y ago
  There's another reason to resist being corrected: your colleagues are in the middle of having a knee-jerk reaction to something you did for good reason, and they can't explain why they don't like it in this instance, only in general.
  - danharaj 11y ago
    Ah yes, when the person being corrected corrects the person correcting them :)
- hashkb 11y ago
  If you disagree with my statement, aren't you also saying you don't believe in confirmation bias? It's more or less proven that we behave this way (seek out information that supports our beliefs, discard/adjust information that doesn't.) Why do you think that? I don't, actually; I think I'm awesome at being corrected and just happen to be right most of the time. Fortunately I'm often able to catch my biased, subconscious reactions before I say anything.
seivan 11y ago
Different people have different ways to being corrected. I like to question things to the point of it might loo like I dislike being corrected, but I am just digging for more information to prove me wrong. I like to make an analogy on scratching on a old flesh-wound with dried blood. It's gross to people around you, but satisfying to yourself, because you enjoy the pain.

It really is too bad that we are hardwired to suck at being corrected. It is the source of so much social and organizational inefficiency.

by hashkb 11y ago

It really is too bad that we are hardwired to suck at being corrected. It is the source of so much social and organizational inefficiency.

danharaj 11y ago

> It really is too bad that we are hardwired to suck at being corrected. Why do you think that? Speak for yourself. The foundation of human society is transmission of knowledge and skills. We spend a great deal of our time learning from others, which involves correction based on observation of others as well as instruction from others. When people are receptive to being corrected, they are very good at being corrected. When they resist being corrected, they are very bad at it. Why do they resist? Probably because we often find ourselves in social situations where accepting criticism from others is considered submissive and a penalty to social standing. People who consider each other equals tend to be very receptive to mutual correction. People who are vying to be the dominant one in a relationship are very hostile towards being corrected.

jschwartzi 11y ago
There's another reason to resist being corrected: your colleagues are in the middle of having a knee-jerk reaction to something you did for good reason, and they can't explain why they don't like it in this instance, only in general.
- danharaj 11y ago
  Ah yes, when the person being corrected corrects the person correcting them :)
hashkb 11y ago
If you disagree with my statement, aren't you also saying you don't believe in confirmation bias? It's more or less proven that we behave this way (seek out information that supports our beliefs, discard/adjust information that doesn't.) Why do you think that? I don't, actually; I think I'm awesome at being corrected and just happen to be right most of the time. Fortunately I'm often able to catch my biased, subconscious reactions before I say anything.

seivan 11y ago

Different people have different ways to being corrected. I like to question things to the point of it might loo like I dislike being corrected, but I am just digging for more information to prove me wrong. I like to make an analogy on scratching on a old flesh-wound with dried blood. It's gross to people around you, but satisfying to yourself, because you enjoy the pain.