O.K.--Times have changed. Jobs have changed. There's been role reversals in families. (By the way, the guys I knew who stayed at home and raised the kids; di

O.K.--Times have changed. Jobs have changed. There's been role reversals in families. (By the way, the guys I knew who stayed at home and raised the kids; did a stellar job.) Society has changed a lot. Good Blue collar jobs are hard to come by. Even white collar jobs are not what they used to be. It's basically a mess. Consider yourself luckey if you have a job you don't hate? That said, when certain people become unemployed--they fall to pieces. I know it a blow. I know there's a risk of homeless. I know he might leave you. (If he leaves you, or "makes you pay for being unemployed" you probally picked the wrong mate?) What I'm trying to say is don't beat yourself up too much. I have seen way to many people define themself's by what they do. "I'm a blah, blah, blah." You are a person first? With a lot of interests? I know it's difficult. The first question out of every Bobble Head is "What do you do?". I saw my sister pretty much destroy her marriage. She was making a very good living. He was an Actor, and a great father to their boys. Because he wasn't the guy on t.v.--literally, or figuratively she emasculated him to the point he cheated. He married a person who didn't judge him as a success, or failure. He is now happy. His depression went away. I wonder why? My sister still watches the television fantasy world where the man is a "man". He's a successful something. He the protector. He's the hard working something? Usually he's an Architect, or Doctor on T.V.? (By the way in real life. If you can make a living as an Architect--you are lucky.) My sister has been through a lot of men, and never found one that had the qualities of her first husband. She now knows she should not have let the media, and the village; determine what's desirable in a mate. She says pushing away her first husband was her biggest regret. I have no advice. I just see some men/women go to any lengths in order to get "the paper". Yes, a lot of it is hormones, but don't kill yourself trying to be what this society is constantly thrusting upon us. My father was a "working man's hero". He was misserable too. He died way to soon.