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IMO, humans, male or female, seek the best mate. "Best" is subjective but usually easy to understand. Men want youthful, beautiful women whereas women want stro

by NTDF9 11y ago

IMO, humans, male or female, seek the best mate. "Best" is subjective but usually easy to understand. Men want youthful, beautiful women whereas women want strong, resourceful men. In enforcing monogamy, we ensured that male got what they wanted (a young woman) and now, that male can focus his attention on work. This worked well for women too (if they had a choice of male) since they now have a partner as well. Adultery was looked down upon to preserve the "sanctity" of this 1:1 relationship. This also kept men working hard to build the society (since they didn't have to deal with family issues much) and women preserved morality and guarded home upbringing. Today, since adultery/serial monogamy/polyandry/polygamy etc. is a joke and widely "accepted", there is no incentive to get married. So many 18-35 waste their youthful lives just dating, dating, meeting jerks, partying, jumping from partner to partner....instead of focusing on building a REAL stable relationship. By early 30s, most folks are sick of dating and all illusions of love are gone. Monogamy is not practical without heavy penalties on non-monogamous relationships.

dragonwriter 11y ago
> In enforcing monogamy, we ensured that male got what they wanted (a young woman) and now, that male can focus his attention on work. This worked well for women too (if they had a choice of male) since they now have a partner as well. Adultery was looked down upon to preserve the "sanctity" of this 1:1 relationship. Adultery has been "looked down on" (to put it mildly) for a lot longer than monogamy has been a norm.
erikpukinskis 11y ago
> Men want youthful, beautiful women > women want strong, resourceful men Ugh.
- Lawtonfogle 11y ago
  Are you against the notion that each gender generally has different characteristics they prefer or just the simplistic nature in which the parent comment expressed that notion?
stcredzero 11y ago
Monogamy is not practical without heavy penalties on non-monogamous relationships. If by "monogamy" one means having one stable primary relationship at a time while having dalliances with secondary/tertiary partners and transitory partners, then "monogamy" seems to fit the baseline human sexual behavior for the majority of people, across cultures, and across history. Today, since adultery/serial monogamy/polyandry/polygamy etc. is a joke and widely "accepted", there is no incentive to get married. So many 18-35 waste their youthful lives just dating, dating, meeting jerks, partying, jumping from partner to partner....instead of focusing on building a REAL stable relationship. If society looked at the actual data, and adjusted to the patterns of behavior people actually exhibit -- serial monogamy with possible secondary partners -- then I suspect there would be more scope and opportunity for building stable real relationships. There would be less pressure on keeping the strictures of such a monogamy. It would be easier for people to remain "faithful." There would be less drama. There would be less sexual dissatisfaction and boredom. (My data: My previous relationship was with someone "poly." My current relationship is traditionally monogamous, to which I do adhere.)

by NTDF9 11y ago

dragonwriter 11y ago

> In enforcing monogamy, we ensured that male got what they wanted (a young woman) and now, that male can focus his attention on work. This worked well for women too (if they had a choice of male) since they now have a partner as well. Adultery was looked down upon to preserve the "sanctity" of this 1:1 relationship. Adultery has been "looked down on" (to put it mildly) for a lot longer than monogamy has been a norm.

erikpukinskis 11y ago

> Men want youthful, beautiful women > women want strong, resourceful men Ugh.

Lawtonfogle 11y ago
Are you against the notion that each gender generally has different characteristics they prefer or just the simplistic nature in which the parent comment expressed that notion?

stcredzero 11y ago

Monogamy is not practical without heavy penalties on non-monogamous relationships. If by "monogamy" one means having one stable primary relationship at a time while having dalliances with secondary/tertiary partners and transitory partners, then "monogamy" seems to fit the baseline human sexual behavior for the majority of people, across cultures, and across history. Today, since adultery/serial monogamy/polyandry/polygamy etc. is a joke and widely "accepted", there is no incentive to get married. So many 18-35 waste their youthful lives just dating, dating, meeting jerks, partying, jumping from partner to partner....instead of focusing on building a REAL stable relationship. If society looked at the actual data, and adjusted to the patterns of behavior people actually exhibit -- serial monogamy with possible secondary partners -- then I suspect there would be more scope and opportunity for building stable real relationships. There would be less pressure on keeping the strictures of such a monogamy. It would be easier for people to remain "faithful." There would be less drama. There would be less sexual dissatisfaction and boredom. (My data: My previous relationship was with someone "poly." My current relationship is traditionally monogamous, to which I do adhere.)