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> It's not unusual in my circles that kids are both playing football, taking piano lessons, learning french on top of their school and homework. I believe this
by tdkl 11y ago
> It's not unusual in my circles that kids are both playing football, taking piano lessons, learning french on top of their school and homework.
I believe this is fundamentally the wrong approach as it only teaches kids to skate over a subject rather than master one in full.
True, although on the other hand that's the best time to experiment what you'll potentially like and perhaps even base your interests and/or career on.
- ThomPete 11y agoYes but this is something I believe kids are perfectly fine figuring out themselves rather than parents sending them to all the things they wished they had learned when they were kids :)
- hashkb 11y ago...and then becoming insecure about our talents when we become moderately successful.
- spooningtamarin 11y agoNot really. How can they figure out they love ice skating if they never tried it? It is up to the parent to give direction to their child, not pressure them into something that they don't want but show them what is possible and out there. Giving a child the freedom to do what it wants is probably not going to end up well in majority of cases.
- ThomPete 11y agoKids don't live in a vacum. I have never told my son he should learn skateboarding, be a scientist or play music. I didn't come out of a musical family and ended up playing music professionally for a couple of years. No one is talk about giving them freedom to do what they want.
- spooningtamarin 11y ago> Kids don't live in a vacum. Sure. They don't, but when they are just starting school they still don't know much about what is possible, and out there. > No one is talk about giving them freedom to do what they want. Little bit of guidance won't hurt. There is nothing intrinsic in child's wishes. No one is blocking their inner genius by guiding them to pay attention to learning maths instead of painting, or dancing, or vice versa.
- ThomPete 11y agoWhat do you mean they don't know what is possible? They are exposed to all sorts of of things way before they start school. Through friends, parents friends, family, media etc. Nobody is saying guidance is bad. The point is when the guidance become constant. It's not about some innner genius, it's not even about finding what you are are good at. It's about finding the engine that will allow you to become good at something which is a combination between many factors including parents guidance. But it's completely lacking when parent's start pushing the kids to try out may different things almost as chores.
- lfowles 11y agoExample: I knew literally nothing about any of the engineering disciplines until junior/senior year of highschool when a careers quiz directed me towards them.