Have you considered therapy? It sounds to me like your issues with getting out and networking with developers don't have much to do with the developers in parti

Have you considered therapy? It sounds to me like your issues with getting out and networking with developers don't have much to do with the developers in particular. Rather, your social anxiety within you is holding you back from putting yourself out there. I'm no expert on these things, but I did used to be primarily introverted. Extrovert tendencies did not emerge until I started working to fix the parts of my personality that would always hold me back from new possibilities and opportunities, and you can't fix what you don't understand. Throw something out there. Send a pull request or message. See what happens. You can't gauge your worth based on failed attempts to elicit feedback.