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I maintain that people communicate differently and some are much better in certain mediums than others. Some people express themselves better through written wo
by ryanelkins 17y ago
I maintain that people communicate differently and some are much better in certain mediums than others. Some people express themselves better through written words, art, music, etc. Saying face to face communication is always the best way everytime for every person is wrong.
Even for the awkward nerd in all of us - maybe you talk to someone online and you're totally relaxed and being somewhat smooth and then you blow it in person by being a nervous wreck - you still got further through indirect communication than you would have had you just spent 5 minutes with them initially without talking online first, which is my point. I'm not saying being good at indirect communication is all you need, just that some people can get further with it than they can with direct interaction. The basics still need to be in place (general attraction to each other, ability to speak in the presence of a woman, etc).
- philk 17y agoI agree that some people are better at communicating in different mediums. However, in your example, I don't think that you really got much further. You still blew it at the "talking in person" stage. It's just that you took longer to get there.
- DougWebb 17y agoSpeaking from experience, in this example blowing it in person isn't as damaging, because you've already shown the other person what you're capable of. You come off as someone who's shy and nervous rather than someone one's strange and unapproachable. Shy and nervous can trigger the maternal instinct in a woman which will keep her around long enough for you to get past the awkwardness.