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> That said men have very easy way to avoid children and that's to use a condom or to pick a partner who does not want them That's not nearly as easy as it sou
by Zikes 11y ago
> That said men have very easy way to avoid children and that's to use a condom or to pick a partner who does not want them
That's not nearly as easy as it sounds, as condoms are not 100% effective and the partner may not be truthful when they say they don't want children. Women hold all of the power in these situations, as if contraception should fail they have the opportunity to abort or give the child up for adoption, meaning they can change their mind at any point. Men don't have such "second chance" options, as they are completely beholden to the woman's choice from conception on.
In an ideal and fair system, a man should be given adequate opportunity to declare their intent not to support the child, after which the woman will then have the opportunity to abort or put the child up for adoption, or know that if they keep the child then they will be raising it alone or with a different partner.
- dogma1138 11y agoLife isn't fair, this will not ever be possible biology and modern values make it so. You have other options, get a vasectomy or RISUG, use a condom and wait for the male contraceptive pill to come to market if you still some how manage to reproduce then you'll be the unluckiest person on the planet. You can't force a woman to give up a child anymore than you can force her to bare one, most things in life have some risk associated with them,so does sex. The problem is that there won't be a system that will allow for men to say "I don't want it" which won't be exploited, and children suffer, it suck yes, but we should rather focus on ensuring that both parents will have fair access to the child and act in it's best interests. BTW if the woman gets another partner who becomes the legal parent of the child then you are in the clear for child support in most cases.
- Zikes 11y agoLife isn't fair, but justice ought to be. > The problem is that there won't be a system that will allow for men to say "I don't want it" which won't be exploited, and children suffer Exploitability holds less weight to me than legal fairness. "Think of the children" is more often than not used to justify facilitating unfair actions, in my view.