The elephant in the room for me during conversations like this is theory of gender. It doesn't seem like we have one. I sideline myself, or at least error on th

The elephant in the room for me during conversations like this is theory of gender. It doesn't seem like we have one. I sideline myself, or at least error on the side of compassion, because it feels like we just don't know how to think about gender, either in a scientific way, or if significant features of it are non-scientific, how to approach it then at all. I think more attention to it as a subject of serious research could help us all a lot.