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Except before Facebook, we wouldn't have known this unless we went out of our way to find out, or just ran into our ex in the street.

toomuchtodo 11y ago
Or found out from someone in your social circles? Before Facebook, you'd hear it from a friend.
- hueving 11y ago
  But unless your friend was an asshole, he/she wouldn't announce it like a big event you should be excited about.
  - toomuchtodo 11y ago
    Your friend would tell you the same way Facebook would tell you: in passing (either in your feed or your facebook notifications).
    - patrickdavey 11y ago
      In fairness, for things like "engaged" or "married" Facebook promotes the heck out of those events making them very much a "big event you should be excited about".
      - toomuchtodo 11y ago
        If you're a decent human being, you should be happy for a past partner celebrating an important moment in their life. If they're happy, would you not be happy for them?
        toomuchtodo 11y ago
        Can't edit this post, and I know its against the rules to mention downvotes (sorry dang!), but y'all be some bitter people. That makes me sad.
thucydides 11y ago
Exactly. Phone notification: "HELLO, THIS IS THE OMNISCIENT COMPUTER NETWORK 'FACEBOOK' AGAIN. MOMENTS AGO, A MALE COMPANION PROPOSED A LIFETIME OF WEDDED BLISS TO YOUR FORMER GIRLFRIEND. SHE SAID YES. ATTACHED IS A PHOTO SHE SELECTED OF BOTH OF THEM LOOKING ATTRACTIVE."
dragonwriter 11y ago
> Except before Facebook, we wouldn't have known this unless we went out of our way to find out, or just ran into our ex in the street. Or had any common acquaintances. Or read newspapers (publishing engagement notices in them used to be a thing). For most of human history, if someone you used to be involved with was engaged to be married, it wasn't particularly unlikely that you'd hear about it, and in many cases be either socially expected to participate in celebration related to it or be pointedly excluded from them.

toomuchtodo 11y ago

Or found out from someone in your social circles? Before Facebook, you'd hear it from a friend.

hueving 11y ago
But unless your friend was an asshole, he/she wouldn't announce it like a big event you should be excited about.
- toomuchtodo 11y ago
  Your friend would tell you the same way Facebook would tell you: in passing (either in your feed or your facebook notifications).
  - patrickdavey 11y ago
    In fairness, for things like "engaged" or "married" Facebook promotes the heck out of those events making them very much a "big event you should be excited about".
    - toomuchtodo 11y ago
      If you're a decent human being, you should be happy for a past partner celebrating an important moment in their life. If they're happy, would you not be happy for them?
      - toomuchtodo 11y ago
        Can't edit this post, and I know its against the rules to mention downvotes (sorry dang!), but y'all be some bitter people. That makes me sad.

thucydides 11y ago

Exactly. Phone notification: "HELLO, THIS IS THE OMNISCIENT COMPUTER NETWORK 'FACEBOOK' AGAIN. MOMENTS AGO, A MALE COMPANION PROPOSED A LIFETIME OF WEDDED BLISS TO YOUR FORMER GIRLFRIEND. SHE SAID YES. ATTACHED IS A PHOTO SHE SELECTED OF BOTH OF THEM LOOKING ATTRACTIVE."

dragonwriter 11y ago

> Except before Facebook, we wouldn't have known this unless we went out of our way to find out, or just ran into our ex in the street. Or had any common acquaintances. Or read newspapers (publishing engagement notices in them used to be a thing). For most of human history, if someone you used to be involved with was engaged to be married, it wasn't particularly unlikely that you'd hear about it, and in many cases be either socially expected to participate in celebration related to it or be pointedly excluded from them.