> Everyone already has their own childhood friends, family, support group that they have built themselves around their whole lives and grew up with. To them, I

> Everyone already has their own childhood friends, family, support group that they have built themselves around their whole lives and grew up with. To them, I am just another 'colleague' or 'fellow member of X and Y group', and I know our friendships will never go past a certain level. I think you are misinterpreting the local culture. If they are in their 20's then their friendship networks are still quite young and are being created, perhaps you are not understanding your value and potential to the group. Deep friendships though are just about time and random events. That's why it's good to have diverse acquaintances -> friendships -> deep friendships.