I think it is important to understand that friendships usually get built up slowly. However you don't need patience you need to enjoy the process, so there is n

I think it is important to understand that friendships usually get built up slowly. However you don't need patience you need to enjoy the process, so there is nothing to endure. My advice is to try to enjoy your shallow relationships with colleagues and acquaintances. Don't underestimate the rituals of greeting people and participating in small talk. Relax, listen and share a little-bit of your life ("Traffic is crap, I really wish there was a subway here"). Don't try too hard to turn them into big friendships, end the conversation when it becomes awkward with a "nice talking to you". Try to show up to events or invite people. Everything else will come in time, especially if you enjoy yourself.