I think part of the problem is that if you're a minority group which views the majority group don't think are important you will not only be judged as overreact

I think part of the problem is that if you're a minority group which views the majority group don't think are important you will not only be judged as overreacting because they can't understand you, but you will also be judged more harshly if you do overreact. It's like in work life when men can be looked up to as jerks when they fire people for petty things, favor their buddies over other colleagues, go out drinking groping and picking fights. But when a women is calling out someones unwanted advance or sexual harassment she have to be absolutely sure she is correct and can prove it because otherwise it's apparently her that are making people uncomfortable. And of course since "it wasn't a big deal" she is overreacting by default. Maybe overreacting isn't such a bad thing, maybe it simply evens out the jerks a bit.