Generally, I like to give all people benefit of the doubt irrespective of gender identity. That said, it doesn't take many interactions with individuals to get

Generally, I like to give all people benefit of the doubt irrespective of gender identity. That said, it doesn't take many interactions with individuals to get an idea of why kind of things they care about and are vocal about. People who are actively like the person referenced in the blog post become their own self-fulfilling prophecy and fail to see how their whining/complaining contributes to them not progressing in their career by isolating them from their colleagues. I work with amazing people that span the gender spectrum. Most are heterosexual males. Regardless of where a colleague lies on the identity spectrum, I respect and work with them all. I did however have a coworker on a previous team that frequently interpreted many interactions and events through victim-colored glasses. On occasion we would get in debates, especially if bad statistics were presented (I'm easily nerd-sniped by bad stats, https://xkcd.com/356/ https://xkcd.com/356/), especially the base rate fallacy. It got a tad uncivil at times because my retorts and corrections to the bad state were unwelcome. Another behavior of their's that caused discomfort for me and others, were frequent unambiguously negative comments stereotyping a gender identity, gender orientation and race that is generally perceived as have greater privileges. Despite the occasional unpleasant interaction, I made sure to provide mentorship to this colleague when appropriate. I eventually switched teams for a far more interesting opportunity. Avoiding this colleague with a victim mentality was not at all a motivating factor for my move, but I can't say that it wasn't a huge relief to no longer work with this person directly. The entire time we worked together, I assumed that it was possible that I may eventually end up at the wrong end of one of those unpleasant interaction that would end up biting me in the ass because I have the privilege of being assumed to be the transgressor in such situations due to my perceived gender identity and perceived race (fwiw, I'm a mixed race pomosexual, but people don't know that unless I tell them). I actively/consciously make sure not to single out people based on their identity, but observed behavior is another manner entirely. Once someone outs themselves as a wearer of victim-colored glasses, I get especially leery. I recognize however that most people aren't going to give the benefit of the doubt and identify this nuance, so I can see how many colleagues would avoid working with those whose identity correlates statistically with wearing victim-colored glasses. The threat of scandal with those wearing victim colored glasses begets avoidant behavior in those who perceived identity puts them in the group most likely to be the loser in the event of any ambiguous scandal. Overall I consider victimhood culture to be a super toxic approach that fosters isolation. http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/09/the-rise-of-victimhood-culture/404794/ http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/09/the-rise...