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I have been thinking about this problem for quite a while now. I will in this comment describe the beginnings of a formal system of encoding the equations that
by meric 11y ago
I have been thinking about this problem for quite a while now. I will in this comment describe the beginnings of a formal system of encoding the equations that underpin one aspect of emotions. It's incorrect, and incomplete, so forgive me.
1. Everyone have a different skill levels for each of unlimited variety of tasks, for example, in cooking, cycling, running, eating quickly, enjoying food, planning vacations, etc. Everyone also have a different perception of their own skill level on each of those tasks. Some people view their own skill level at a particular task as better than it really is, some underestimate themselves and view their own skill level as worse than it really is, and some have a realistic perceptions. The disparity between reality and their self-perception is called ego. For some people, the disparity between perception and reality is so wide, and self-awareness in all aspects of life so low, we either call them narcissists, or co-dependents, depending on which direction the disparity goes. Let's denote a person's ego at a particular skill level as +EGO<cycling>, meaning the person overestimates their cycling ability or -EGO<cooking>, meaning the person underestimates their cooking ability.
2. In a society, people interact with each other socially. Of the wide range of human interactions, two important ones are approval, and disapproval of another person's skill level at a particular task. These two messages, from the sender's point of view, can be deserved (a compliment / a criticism), or undeserved (flattery, insult). Over-simplifying a bit, a deserved compliment simply means the person is sending the compliment views the receiver as competent as a particular task, whereas an undeserved compliment means the person is sending the approval or disapproval, knows it has no bearing on reality, and is only doing the sending to achieve some motive, such as manipulating the social hierarchy, or to balance the disequilibrium that is occurring in their own selves, for example, insecurity. I've described deserved & unreservedness as discrete, though it is continuous. E.g. A person (prison guard in an nazi-like atmosphere?) complimenting Usain Bolt "You're not bad at running, I'll let you run around the camp." intending it as an insult, is a positive appraisal, but is underserved, because to the sender's knowledge, Usain Bolt is better than "not bad". There's also a case, where, for example, Usain Bolt's best friend who is bad at running saying "The store's almost closed, you go buy it. You're the one good at running." as a humorous understatement. I think that should still be classified undeserved compliment. The purpose of understating the compliment would be to maintain one's social standing in Bolt's eyes.
We can denote such a message as ++APPRAISAL<cycling>. The first sign "+" indicates it is a positive appraisal, the second sign "+" indicates in which direction it deviates from reality. If it contains only one sign, "-APPRAISAL<cycling>", then it will mean it is a realistic appraisal, as far as the sender is concerned.
3. People are different. It means they deal with their own and others' emotions differently. People change. Each time they deal with a scenario, they change a little more. Now that we have some notations defined from above, let's describe a scenario, where a narcissistic mother, Earline, gives an negative, undeserved appraisal to her daughter, Maggie, who participates in a boxing competition[1]. The daughter had just bought her mother a house. As a narcissist, the mother is concerned with her image, and she thinks her daughter should also be concerned with the same thing. The mother is criticising her daughter's ability to generate a positive image, i.e., status, in society.
EARLINE: Find a man, Marry him. Live proper. People hear 'bout what you're doing and they laugh. Hurts me to tell you, but they laugh at you.
It's undeserved, because the only people who laugh are Earline's friends. Do Maggie's fans laugh? No. Does her mentor laugh? No. As a codependent who is -EGO<X> where X is not boxing, she takes it to heart, for now. Earline has been raising Maggie this way since forever, it will explain why in the movie the narrator tells the audience Maggie "knows she is trash". This continues until the final moments in the movie, when Maggie figured out her mother wouldn't praise her even when she was nearly the world champion at something.
Sending an appraisal message will alter the person's ego in some way. Sending a false appraisal message will also alter the person's ego in someway, but, like borrowing debt, while depositing cash in assets, creating a corresponding liability at the same time, the false appraisal message, when found out as false, will discredit the sender, diminishing the feelings the receiver have for the sender towards the negative direction.
We'll make an "equation" to describe the effect of an appraisal message to a person's psyche. As people are constantly changing, as they have experiences, we'll use => to separate the left side and the right side.
{0}{1}APPRAISAL<X>(sender, receiver) => {0}EGO<X>(receiver) + {1}RELATIONSHIP(receiver, sender)
{0}, {1}, are either positive or negative signs.
The notation as it is, isn't sufficient to describe the fact the negative effect on the relationship between the receiver and the sender is delayed until receiver realises the appraisal is fake, retroactively. It is important to note, as the receiver realises the appraisal is fake, the receiver's ego heals, so in fact, my equation isn't even correct, because over time, it doesn't balance.
Anyway, it's my first stab at it and I think it needs a lot of improvement. Thanks for writing this Ask HN to give me opportunity to try hashing some things that's been on my mind for a while. I've worked out relationships and the emotions that occur between narcissists and codependents, and the initial courting process between a male and a female, have some structure as to how people fall in love with each other, whether a couple will be stable, looking at the disparity between their attractiveness, and what kind of interactions that might occur if the disparity is too big. I have some idea of what happens when two strangers meet, and how they become friends. I think I know enough to eventually encode all of these, but there are more social interactions than between narcissists and codependents, and between husband's and wive's and their mistresses, and between strangers becoming friends. I thought about implementing a set of notations as programming code eventually, but I can't think of a use for it besides building more realistic diplomacy in strategy games...:) And it's going to be a lot of effort I don't know if I can even make some sort of significant headway.
[1] Scenario taken from "Million dollar baby". See script. http://screenplayexplorer.com/wp-content/scripts/Million-Dollar-Baby.pdf http://screenplayexplorer.com/wp-content/scripts/Million-Dol...
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Given that type theory is a system for describing mathematics, and given that "Math can be applied everywhere", why is it that type theory can't seem to be applied to personality type theory? I've been thinking about this since about I started studying type theory. I'm thinking that one abstraction will be: a jolly man can act as a catalyst on a social environment and then cause the environment to be jolly as well. But I'm thinking as well about the case when a man "wearing a hat" can act as a catalyst on a social environment and then cause the environment to be "wearing a hat" as well. An environment "wearing a hat" doesn't sound good, does it? Well, my main question has a tendency to be flawed, but I would really like to have sincere answers. It would really help if the answers would focus on type theory.
With the jolly man, through empathy, others feel the same joy, and through peer pressure, some others will feel forced to show joy. On one hand it will temporarily raise the mood of the social environment, on the other, in some individuals the forced joy will even enhance their negative feelings and resentment, causing jealousy. These negative emotions leak out eventually, to return the environment to equilibrium (contentment, like a rock, like a tree, like a baby drinking breast milk, like a sheep chewing on grass, like a man or woman asleep). Of course in cycles, it usually overshoots to the other end of the equilibrium, so you have that bouncing back and forth waves of joy and discontent.
With the "wearing a hat", I grew a beard once, and within months half the people in my company had a beard. So it can be said "the social environment became more amenable to hat wearing", so what you're saying works on some level. Of course eventually more people had a beard than didn't, and people who wanted to show their individuality showed it by cutting their beard off first, and then everyone followed through, and now I'm back to the only one with a beard.
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I suspect there's no type system to describe all these is because no one who knows enough about social interactions is interested and has the ability to define it through a type system has started doing this yet. Can you think of a way to denote all these specific aspects of persons and interactions in symbols, and devise a way to show the deltas of these symbols, and describe the changes the reverberate through the environment?
- insoluble 11y agoOverall your typing proposal sounds like a good start. The one thing missing, however, is any method of quantification. To bring a natural phenomenon into a mathematical realm requires something of a "codec" translating between nature and number. This, of course, would be a very big topic in itself. Neurological reaction data could possibly be used in the calibration phase to determine for various individuals the relative strengths of each relationship event. On the other hand, there's the option of using purely subjective surveys to assess the individual's reaction. Further still, with sufficient event data, relative event strengths could be inferred without direct individual contact or interference. My observation on the topic of human social analysis has thus far been that most folks are relatively uncomfortable discussing human quantification, as if humans are somehow exempt from being measured. I sometimes wonder if the ego is afraid of being seen in the daylight.
- meric 11y agoWell, I think it's near impossible to quantify currently because all experiences are subjective. I think it's not too unsurprising many people are uncomfortable thinking about specific nuances of human social interaction, not many people are comfortable watching a doctor dissecting a human eye ball discussing how it works and measuring each part of it, either...
- insoluble 11y agoI agree that it's no easy task. I'm thinking maybe when real-time brain imaging (including EEG) improves sufficiently, the effects of social exchanges could be measured more directly without having to rely on surveys. Either this, or humans would need to be placed into a giant maze where all their interactions are recorded. Surveys can sometimes be somewhat informative if done correctly. I once ran a morality survey (on TolunaQuick) where I quantified categories of morality across socioeconomic statuses using a three-tier questionnaire. The approach was much like that employed by common personality tests, where each measurement is made from multiple questions essentially targeting the same topic. By having related questions on different tiers (levels of magnitude or intensity), the subjective information was somewhat quantifiable across individuals. Like with many systems, it would be recommended to begin with a simple scenario (one type of event, one variable being measured) and to build from there. Without having a method of quantification, the formulae for human interactions would remain as nothing more than abstract hypotheses. Hence, quantification is necessary for scientific analysis. On a related note, I believe that one of the most detrimental flaws in everyday human communication is that magnitudes are expressed using highly subjective, discrete categories. For example, someone might ask, "How much fun did you have?". The answer would generally be limited to a scale having just several steps such as "a little bit", "a fair amount", "quite a bit", or "a lot". It is unfortunate that humans are unable to give a more fluid answer that is somehow standardised, such as by saying "3.5 F worth of fun". Another deplorable example is when journalists take scientific findings and say something like "X was found to be significantly more likely to give you cancer than Y" while not giving any details as to the absolute or relative quantity of difference. For all we know, X increases the risk of cancer by 0.01% compared with Y; and the general public seems ignorant of the uselessness of the statistical term "significant" when not accompanied by the numbers whence it sprang. Common tongue is inherently deceptive, and many people have a bad habit of taking advantage of this ambiguity for propagandist purposes.