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> child-centric lives can lose touch with one another to the point where they have nothing left to say to one another when the kids leave home. there are coupl
by munin 11y ago
> child-centric lives can lose touch with one another to the point where they have nothing left to say to one another when the kids leave home.
there are couples like this because the way they made kids + 2 careers work on middle class salaries is by dividing the day in half and each parent spends one half the day with the children and the other works. after ten years of this, you don't actually know your spouse any more - they've been living some life, but not one that you've had time to be a part of between your own career and your children.
this seems like an equally plausible explanation for this phenomenon, because when you sacrifice that much it must be for something and when someone else insinuates that maybe the sacrifice wasn't worth it, well, that would really piss you off...
- nommm-nommm 11y agoThere's actually some evidence that shared earning/shared parenting marriages are less likely to end in divorce. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shared_earning/shared_parenting_marriage#Marriage_stability_and_fertility_rates https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shared_earning/shared_parentin... I guess the hypothesis is you start to feel alone in your responsibilities and you lose touch with your spouse's life.
- Jtsummers 11y ago> the way they made kids + 2 careers work on middle class salaries is by dividing the day in half and each parent spends one half the day with the children and the other works. Who sets up their schedules like that in the middle class? Middle class jobs don't (typically) allow that one parent could work from 7-4 and another from 4-1am.