>Why is it that people...get so incredibly hurt when others...point out how abusive they are? Because they don't think it's abusive. If it isn't (I personally

>Why is it that people...get so incredibly hurt when others...point out how abusive they are? Because they don't think it's abusive. If it isn't (I personally think it is), then pointing "out how abusive they are" comes off as passive aggressively saying they shouldn't express themselves in a certain way. That is effectively telling them they can not speak certain things that they feel are an important part of their ability to express certain ideas. It may as well be needless censorship, in their minds. Clearly the best response would be to calmly explain why expressing themselves in that way is important. But they're on the defensive, and honestly think aggression is a good way to express themselves, so -in their minds- why should they be calm about it?