Abruptly. People sometimes think they want time to wrap up their affairs but as someone who has done some grief counseling in the past o e of the saddest things

Abruptly. People sometimes think they want time to wrap up their affairs but as someone who has done some grief counseling in the past o e of the saddest things I have seen repeatedly is long drawn out terminal illnesses and their effect on friends and families. Invariably your loved ones after seeing you in pain for months on end will have the thought "maybe it would be better if you just died instead of continuing to suffer". And then you do, and even though it is absurd they then feel immense guilt for wishing you would hurry up and die. Or after the first month of shock is over and they have visited you every day, they start to get back to their normal lives, not able to miss another day of school or work, then when they have t seen you for a week or two, you die, leaving them again filled with guilt. It just tears people apart. I wish for a quick and somewhat unexpected death. I would rather leave people wishing they had a chance to say goodbye than have them feel guilty that they had the chance but decided to go to work or school instead.