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Speaking from experience Im 43 years old but been rejected by women my entire life in LA for being a "white guy" its certainly depressing that no matter how wel

by shams93 11y ago

Speaking from experience Im 43 years old but been rejected by women my entire life in LA for being a "white guy" its certainly depressing that no matter how well you do you have to spend your entire life alone have to be ignorant of sexuality because its cut off from you , theres never any reward for my efforts no matter how well i do only puniahment for being born the wrong ethnicity.

reddytowns 11y ago
Leave the country, you'll do much better in that area.
ballsohardy 11y ago
lol if you can't get laid as a white guy you are doing it wrong
smt88 11y ago
> for being a "white guy" I am 100% certain that you have not only been rejected for being a white guy. White people are the most sought-after race in the United States[1], partially because most people seek partners of the same race. Furthermore, the language you're using is deeply concerning. Women aren't a "reward" for your efforts. Failing to find a sexual partner is not a "punishment". No one owes you sex, and there isn't a grand design that's keeping you from finding someone to have sex with. I think it's very important for you to seek counseling or the support of a therapist. They'll be able to help you learn how to start and maintain a romantic relationship. There's always hope. 1. http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/ http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/
- dropit_sphere 11y ago
  http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanc...
  - smt88 11y ago
    I skimmed this and have no idea what it has to do with the comment I was responding to. The argument in the article seems to be that, if you're a good guy on paper (you don't abuse women, you're financially stable, etc.) that you should get attention from women instead of men who aren't good guys on paper. My response is similar: the world is not a vending machine where you insert "hard work" or "not beating women" and a sex partner drops out at the bottom. No one just "deserves" sex. It should never be a bargaining chip or a debt that someone is paying you. What's particularly disturbing about this line of thinking is that these people seem to think women owe them in general. It's like they don't even know who they want to have sex with them, and they feel that some woman now needs to step up. Do you not see how bizarre that is? It echoes the comments of the mass shooter who went to a Lulu Lemon to kill women because they "owed him". Nice guys are nice guys because they don't want to harm anyone and because it's good for the people around them. They don't secretly (or publicly!) expect to be rewarded for it with sex.
    - dropit_sphere 11y ago
      If you skimmed it, then you should read it again, in full. Because it didn't say what you think it said.
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yarou 11y ago
This is probably one of the most bizarre comments I've ever read. Nobody owes you anything, and based on your comment, it's clear you need an attitude adjustment and a new perspective. You should probably work on yourself before pointing the finger at others when it comes to your problems.
- throwawayChess 11y ago
  "Nobody owes you anything" Try telling that to overweight feminist whining that men don't like her.
venomsnake 11y ago
I strongly feel that your lack of success with the ladies does not come from your lack of melanin, but from your lack of balls. Also troll. I hope.
- dang 11y ago
  Personal attacks are not allowed on HN. You've broken the HN guidelines rather often. Please read and follow them. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newswelcome.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newswelcome.html

by shams93 11y ago

reddytowns 11y ago

Leave the country, you'll do much better in that area.

ballsohardy 11y ago

lol if you can't get laid as a white guy you are doing it wrong

smt88 11y ago

> for being a "white guy" I am 100% certain that you have not only been rejected for being a white guy. White people are the most sought-after race in the United States[1], partially because most people seek partners of the same race. Furthermore, the language you're using is deeply concerning. Women aren't a "reward" for your efforts. Failing to find a sexual partner is not a "punishment". No one owes you sex, and there isn't a grand design that's keeping you from finding someone to have sex with. I think it's very important for you to seek counseling or the support of a therapist. They'll be able to help you learn how to start and maintain a romantic relationship. There's always hope. 1. http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/ http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/

dropit_sphere 11y ago
http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/ http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanc...
- smt88 11y ago
  I skimmed this and have no idea what it has to do with the comment I was responding to. The argument in the article seems to be that, if you're a good guy on paper (you don't abuse women, you're financially stable, etc.) that you should get attention from women instead of men who aren't good guys on paper. My response is similar: the world is not a vending machine where you insert "hard work" or "not beating women" and a sex partner drops out at the bottom. No one just "deserves" sex. It should never be a bargaining chip or a debt that someone is paying you. What's particularly disturbing about this line of thinking is that these people seem to think women owe them in general. It's like they don't even know who they want to have sex with them, and they feel that some woman now needs to step up. Do you not see how bizarre that is? It echoes the comments of the mass shooter who went to a Lulu Lemon to kill women because they "owed him". Nice guys are nice guys because they don't want to harm anyone and because it's good for the people around them. They don't secretly (or publicly!) expect to be rewarded for it with sex.
  - dropit_sphere 11y ago
    If you skimmed it, then you should read it again, in full. Because it didn't say what you think it said.

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yarou 11y ago

This is probably one of the most bizarre comments I've ever read. Nobody owes you anything, and based on your comment, it's clear you need an attitude adjustment and a new perspective. You should probably work on yourself before pointing the finger at others when it comes to your problems.

throwawayChess 11y ago
"Nobody owes you anything" Try telling that to overweight feminist whining that men don't like her.

venomsnake 11y ago

I strongly feel that your lack of success with the ladies does not come from your lack of melanin, but from your lack of balls. Also troll. I hope.

dang 11y ago
Personal attacks are not allowed on HN. You've broken the HN guidelines rather often. Please read and follow them. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newswelcome.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newswelcome.html