As another Asian-American guy, I want to second this. Up until earlier this year, I felt paralyzed and victimized by American society. That is, I felt passive

As another Asian-American guy, I want to second this. Up until earlier this year, I felt paralyzed and victimized by American society. That is, I felt passively punished for not looking like Brad Pitt, Justin Beiber, or other American sex symbols. I had achieved enough financial success that I felt like the only major thing "missing" in my happiness was a relationship or healthy dating life. And I blamed external circumstances for that. Then I realized, by analogy, that I was perpetuating my own situation. The biggest turnoff for me wanting to recommend a friend for employment was hearing him complain about how unfair the job market is, how worthless his university education was, and so on. In the decade since I've graduated from college, I've witnessed friends jump around across companies and careers and I've witnessed other friends stay put and complain. Complaining can be useful if it leads to action, but it's also a strange and unfortunate local minimum for many people. To build off of beachstartup's point, it's worth considering your objective when you complain about something like social inequality. Is your complaint motivated by a desire to be happier and more fulfilled, or by a desire to see a fairer world? I can shamelessly say that I just want to be happier, so I'm going to try to play the game instead of trying to change it. For now.