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I mean...the point is that even the 'subconscious' is socially trained. In an environment where every 'People's Sexiest Man Alive' is white 30 years running (fi

by huac 11y ago

I mean...the point is that even the 'subconscious' is socially trained. In an environment where every 'People's Sexiest Man Alive' is white 30 years running (fine, Denzel got a token shoutout), where your only Asians in movies are comic relief or simply straight up belittled, there is a very real Eurocentric training. And what constitutes a cool hobby? If attraction is subconscious (or love at first sight?), what does it matter if I play semi-pro badminton vs semi-pro lacrosse? There is much more at work than 'being attractive' when that standard of beauty's defined by forces way outside your control.

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beachstartup 11y ago
if it's outside of your control, what good does complaining do? try action instead. find a mission in life. this entire mindset reeks of external validation-seeking. if you think people's sexiest list is going to stop you from getting your desired results, then it most certainly will. i'm sorry to be such a bro, but i suggest you go lift. it will help clear your mind of such petty nonsense.
- yarou 11y ago
  I don't think anybody is complaining that aesthetic preferences are derived and shaped from pop culture. Rather, it's important to understand what subconsciously influences people, so one might make sense of the seemingly counterintuitive results one has when it comes to the fairer sex.
- contravert 11y ago
  You can literally apply this same logic to any form of discrimination: Paid less because of your gender? What good does complaining do? I suggest you work harder. Injustly stripped of your property? What good does complaining do? I suggest you start a business. Forced to sit in the back of the bus? What good does complaining do? I suggest you exercise more so you can walk longer. Profiled by the police based on your skin color? What good does complaining do? I suggest you dress better. Ostracised from society because you're gay? What good does complaining do? I suggest you hide it better. Assaulted because of your religion? What good does complaining do? I suggest you learn to fight. You should understand that behind every complaint is an implicit call for collective action, which is the only way to solve problems these types of problems. Dismissing these grievances, like you're doing here, has the affect of discouraging not only the person being discriminated against, but also other victims. Even if you aren't doing it consciously, your attitude smothers attempts at collective action maintains the status quo of discrimination.
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random_32467 11y ago
>'People's Sexiest Man Alive' is white 30 years running It sounds like an interesting study to see how the local tabloids pick their "sexiest" choices. Does Lativia's "People" equivalent proportionally reflect their population demographics over time? What about China? Nigeria? Brazil?
yarou 11y ago
The harsh reality of our society is that as your earning capability increases as a male, your pool of potential partners increases dramatically. I don't buy the whole (no pun intended) "get a hobby, start improving yourself" mantra either, because I know that the sexual marketplace is just as rational as any other. Nothing makes you more attractive to a woman than the double which represents your bank account balance. There are of course external signifiers which communicate this information.[0] Or, to use the vernacular: "I ain't saying she a gold digger, but she ain't messing with no broke niggas"[1] [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspicuous_consumption https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspicuous_consumption [1] http://genius.com/Kanye-west-gold-digger-lyrics http://genius.com/Kanye-west-gold-digger-lyrics
- oldmanjay 11y ago
  > Nothing makes you more attractive to a woman than the double which represents your bank account balance. Not really on topic but it is a teachable moment; You should always use fixed point math to deal with currency. Floating point math is not consistently accurate and should never be used.
  - deciplex 11y ago
    If banks often don't bother with it I don't see why anyone else should have to :-)
- beachstartup 11y ago
  your average good-looking, muscular, broke-as-a-joke bartender is getting laid way, way, way more often than a rich guy who thinks women will like him for his money and who doesn't take care of his body. you should ruminate on that.
- refurb 11y ago
  I think you need to meet more/different women. Yes, some are only interested in their partner's bank account (just like some guys are only interested in their partner's looks), but that is by far the exception, not the rule.
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ashwinaj 11y ago
Take a hypothetical example: Four guys (white, brown, Asian, black) born and brought up in the same neighborhood, they have the same physical attributes (height, weight, relative looks). Who do you think most girls are going to go for, assuming they do not know that they grew up in the same environment? Exactly...

by huac 11y ago

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beachstartup 11y ago

if it's outside of your control, what good does complaining do? try action instead. find a mission in life. this entire mindset reeks of external validation-seeking. if you think people's sexiest list is going to stop you from getting your desired results, then it most certainly will. i'm sorry to be such a bro, but i suggest you go lift. it will help clear your mind of such petty nonsense.

yarou 11y ago
I don't think anybody is complaining that aesthetic preferences are derived and shaped from pop culture. Rather, it's important to understand what subconsciously influences people, so one might make sense of the seemingly counterintuitive results one has when it comes to the fairer sex.
contravert 11y ago
You can literally apply this same logic to any form of discrimination: Paid less because of your gender? What good does complaining do? I suggest you work harder. Injustly stripped of your property? What good does complaining do? I suggest you start a business. Forced to sit in the back of the bus? What good does complaining do? I suggest you exercise more so you can walk longer. Profiled by the police based on your skin color? What good does complaining do? I suggest you dress better. Ostracised from society because you're gay? What good does complaining do? I suggest you hide it better. Assaulted because of your religion? What good does complaining do? I suggest you learn to fight. You should understand that behind every complaint is an implicit call for collective action, which is the only way to solve problems these types of problems. Dismissing these grievances, like you're doing here, has the affect of discouraging not only the person being discriminated against, but also other victims. Even if you aren't doing it consciously, your attitude smothers attempts at collective action maintains the status quo of discrimination.
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random_32467 11y ago

>'People's Sexiest Man Alive' is white 30 years running It sounds like an interesting study to see how the local tabloids pick their "sexiest" choices. Does Lativia's "People" equivalent proportionally reflect their population demographics over time? What about China? Nigeria? Brazil?

yarou 11y ago

The harsh reality of our society is that as your earning capability increases as a male, your pool of potential partners increases dramatically. I don't buy the whole (no pun intended) "get a hobby, start improving yourself" mantra either, because I know that the sexual marketplace is just as rational as any other. Nothing makes you more attractive to a woman than the double which represents your bank account balance. There are of course external signifiers which communicate this information.[0] Or, to use the vernacular: "I ain't saying she a gold digger, but she ain't messing with no broke niggas"[1] [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspicuous_consumption https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspicuous_consumption [1] http://genius.com/Kanye-west-gold-digger-lyrics http://genius.com/Kanye-west-gold-digger-lyrics

oldmanjay 11y ago
> Nothing makes you more attractive to a woman than the double which represents your bank account balance. Not really on topic but it is a teachable moment; You should always use fixed point math to deal with currency. Floating point math is not consistently accurate and should never be used.
- deciplex 11y ago
  If banks often don't bother with it I don't see why anyone else should have to :-)
beachstartup 11y ago
your average good-looking, muscular, broke-as-a-joke bartender is getting laid way, way, way more often than a rich guy who thinks women will like him for his money and who doesn't take care of his body. you should ruminate on that.
refurb 11y ago
I think you need to meet more/different women. Yes, some are only interested in their partner's bank account (just like some guys are only interested in their partner's looks), but that is by far the exception, not the rule.
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ashwinaj 11y ago

Take a hypothetical example: Four guys (white, brown, Asian, black) born and brought up in the same neighborhood, they have the same physical attributes (height, weight, relative looks). Who do you think most girls are going to go for, assuming they do not know that they grew up in the same environment? Exactly...