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I don't have a very high-paying job. I'm able to take the vacation because of (a) specifically saving for it and (b) planning a lot; took care of airfare almost

by pen2l 11y ago

I don't have a very high-paying job. I'm able to take the vacation because of (a) specifically saving for it and (b) planning a lot; took care of airfare almost an year earlier (in fact the location I chose was because of airfare deals), arranged place to live, and so on forth. > That's not even considering the fact that planning a pregnancy like that isn't feasible, especially for older couples I'm getting off-topic here but I really want to say this: the biggest reason I see Valley as being evil is it forces everyone to delay having kids. Have kids early, there will be less problems. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Down_syndrome#/media/File:Down_risk_by_maternal_age.png https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Down_syndrome#/media/File:Down... There's a huge amount of research that suggests having kids earlier (e.g. at age 30 or earlier vs. age 40) is better for so many reasons.

nommm-nommm 11y ago
I'm sure you have a job that's higher than median income because most of us here do. So you are expected to have a life partner AND save up enough for a long vacation all before you are 30. That's a ton of pressure to put on young person. Delaying childbearing has quite a bit of disadvantages but also its advantages. Even young people can't snap their fingers and instantly have a healthy pregnancy. That's not how pregnancy works.
- replicatorblog 11y ago
  As a person who started a family later in life (33), I agree with the OP that starting sooner would be good for more people. I wish I had. Yes it's hard to find a life mate, but many generations did it before us. The challenge is what policy levers are there to make it workable? My pet peeve is housing cost. In the Valley, NYC, and Boston, housing is so expensive that you need a career that can pay large salaries. Places like Austin, this is much less of a problem. Also, I think it would be smart for a more frank discussion about the challenges of delayed parenthood. It's great that Facebook is paying for egg-freezing, but IVF is still super risky, financially impactful, stressful in its own right, and very uncomfortable.
TeMPOraL 11y ago
Well, b) is what's hard for most people. You can only plan so many things before life overwhelms you. I personally know I can't plan shit.

by pen2l 11y ago

nommm-nommm 11y ago

I'm sure you have a job that's higher than median income because most of us here do. So you are expected to have a life partner AND save up enough for a long vacation all before you are 30. That's a ton of pressure to put on young person. Delaying childbearing has quite a bit of disadvantages but also its advantages. Even young people can't snap their fingers and instantly have a healthy pregnancy. That's not how pregnancy works.

replicatorblog 11y ago
As a person who started a family later in life (33), I agree with the OP that starting sooner would be good for more people. I wish I had. Yes it's hard to find a life mate, but many generations did it before us. The challenge is what policy levers are there to make it workable? My pet peeve is housing cost. In the Valley, NYC, and Boston, housing is so expensive that you need a career that can pay large salaries. Places like Austin, this is much less of a problem. Also, I think it would be smart for a more frank discussion about the challenges of delayed parenthood. It's great that Facebook is paying for egg-freezing, but IVF is still super risky, financially impactful, stressful in its own right, and very uncomfortable.

TeMPOraL 11y ago

Well, b) is what's hard for most people. You can only plan so many things before life overwhelms you. I personally know I can't plan shit.