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generally people don't seem to enjoy conversation with me Based on what evidence? Have people told you this or is it your perception that they don't enjoy con
by Zelphyr 11y ago
generally people don't seem to enjoy conversation with me
Based on what evidence? Have people told you this or is it your perception that they don't enjoy conversation with you?
If multiple people have told you that they don't enjoy conversation with you then... GREAT! You have data! Go ask them what it is they don't like. If you can agree that they have valid concerns then you can work on fixing those things. If you don't agree then that's ok too. You're being yourself.
- socially-awk 11y agoEh, in my case I think the problem is that I'm interested in things other people aren't and other people are interested in things I'm not. In other words, being myself is generally the ticket to eye-rolling, exasperation, and boredom from others. My trick has been to keep others talking about what they're interested it in as long as possible. That usually works well because it's fun to hear what people are passionate about. Then again, last week that got me trapped in a conversation with a person who advised me to buy gold and bury it around my yard because paper money isn't real since we left the gold standard. Nice guy though.
- Zelphyr 11y agoIf you've ever read How To Win Friends and Influence People you'll know that a great strategy is to listen while others talk about themselves. So, in fact, you're probably well-liked when you do this.