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Just stop caring what people think. It's up to them to signal you to stop. Talking about synths too much and they get uncomfortable? "Oh sorry I'm just really p

by EC1 11y ago

Just stop caring what people think. It's up to them to signal you to stop. Talking about synths too much and they get uncomfortable? "Oh sorry I'm just really passionate about synths and I can fly off the handle sometimes!"

eivarv 11y ago
> Just stop caring what people think. You know what social anxiety (disorder) is about, right?;P
- EC1 11y ago
  It takes work but eventually the feedback loop from caring -> not caring will be 0ms.
  - eivarv 11y ago
    It's not as though one can "just" disregard an important part of what constitutes the disorder, though. It takes treatment, or at least work (like you say).
socially-awk 11y ago
Just stop breathing. That roughly how the first part of your advice comes across. You are not the first and won't be the last. I bear you no ill will for saying it, but it's on the level of telling a depressed person to just stop feeling sad. I don't know if I'm diagnosable as actually having Social Anxiety. Heck, I never even heard those words until some drug commercial came on TV, so I'm a bit suspicious of the label. I do know that I see social experiences as different than most people. I've always been that way. Just a bit different in the head I guess. I like different things, think differently, and behave differently. It's part of who I am. I'm very much the old-school nerd. The one that everybody rolls their eyes at when he starts speaking. I care about things they don't. I don't care about things they do. So it's work for me to communicate with others in a way that doesn't make them roll their eyes. Yes, it's a skill. I'm better at it than I used to be. I could probably be even better at it. But it sure won't be because I stopped caring. If I do that that I'd become an oblivious blowhard.
- EC1 11y ago
  I can tell you're autistic just by the way you are.

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Just stop caring what people think. It's up to them to signal you to stop. Talking about synths too much and they get uncomfortable? "Oh sorry I'm just really p

by EC1 11y ago

eivarv 11y ago
> Just stop caring what people think. You know what social anxiety (disorder) is about, right?;P
- EC1 11y ago
  It takes work but eventually the feedback loop from caring -> not caring will be 0ms.
  - eivarv 11y ago
    It's not as though one can "just" disregard an important part of what constitutes the disorder, though. It takes treatment, or at least work (like you say).
socially-awk 11y ago
Just stop breathing. That roughly how the first part of your advice comes across. You are not the first and won't be the last. I bear you no ill will for saying it, but it's on the level of telling a depressed person to just stop feeling sad. I don't know if I'm diagnosable as actually having Social Anxiety. Heck, I never even heard those words until some drug commercial came on TV, so I'm a bit suspicious of the label. I do know that I see social experiences as different than most people. I've always been that way. Just a bit different in the head I guess. I like different things, think differently, and behave differently. It's part of who I am. I'm very much the old-school nerd. The one that everybody rolls their eyes at when he starts speaking. I care about things they don't. I don't care about things they do. So it's work for me to communicate with others in a way that doesn't make them roll their eyes. Yes, it's a skill. I'm better at it than I used to be. I could probably be even better at it. But it sure won't be because I stopped caring. If I do that that I'd become an oblivious blowhard.
- EC1 11y ago
  I can tell you're autistic just by the way you are.