It makes me happy that the author is better understanding himself and not hiding behind blanket terms like "social anxiety" as if he were forever prisoner to th

It makes me happy that the author is better understanding himself and not hiding behind blanket terms like "social anxiety" as if he were forever prisoner to the label. > I think probably because I stop caring about being weird or not — and there’s a big, obvious lesson right there for me. I think this is the key for most people. Everybody is different. I started dating this girl who's a real sweetheart, but called herself awkward and weird. I said, "But that's not what I think. And so if that's what you think and that's what I think, then isn't it arbitrary?" Labels are incredibly arbitrary and I wish people would treat them with more care. Hey, person reading this, you're an asshole! It's ok -- it's a meaningless label and bears no consequence on reality.. unless you let it. The more you tell yourself you're "this" or "that", you're simultaneously blocking yourself from who you really are. If the canvas (mind) is blank and you're filling it with negativity, what do you expect to happen? Your expressions only follow what's felt within. Everyone has a unique purpose, vision, and perspective here; as a result, when focused, everyone has a different way of applying themselves to the world. Years of learning X things combined with Y perception creates a unique human. However, it's not about being unique either. That's just a label and means nothing in reality. The pursuit of specialness is properly defined and labeled as vanity. There's something better than that in all of us -- some drive to help other, to improve our own lives to improve others' lives, to guide others into doing the same, the desire to connect, the desire to love, the desire to impart wisdom onto others. There's always some good inside of us that wants to be _expressed_. Expression is limited when a mind clouds itself with arbitrary labels that promote fear. One day, we'll all learn that all negative behavior stems from fear. One form of this fear is fear from your own labels or others' labels (also known as others' judgment). I ask you who's reading this, if you have a good heart with good intentions, who cares if I think you're an asshole? Do you really think it makes it true? Now you should be on the way to confidence and a healthy lightheartedness.