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I don't agree that helicopter parenting is anywhere near a prerequisite. In fact, amongst my peers it seems to have been the reverse. The kids with over-involv
by morgante 11y ago
I don't agree that helicopter parenting is anywhere near a prerequisite.
In fact, amongst my peers it seems to have been the reverse. The kids with over-involved parents were the ones who ended up seeming too "cookie-cutter" and ended up going to "second-tier" universities.
The hypothesis of helicopter parenting being a prerequisite for elite admissions also seems to be undermined by the consistent success of boarding schools in college admissions. It's a lot harder to be a helicopter parent when your kids are hundreds-thousands of miles away.
- wfo 11y agoThat actually supports my argument: boarding schools are just helicopter parenting by proxy and even more extreme. Parents send their children away to professional helicopter parents to socialize only with the other helicopter parented-children.
- morgante 11y agoI don't think you have a good idea of what most boarding schools are like. At least in my experience, we were afforded an enormous amount of freedom. Certainly there are not enough staff to provide each student with anything like the amount of helicoptering that many students receive at home. It's much more like college than normal high school, with nobody checking monitoring your every moment. Remember, helicopter parenting and privilege are not the same thing (though they are related). You can have very wealthy and disengaged parents and you can have overly involved poor parents. How do you think it would even be possible for staff to constantly helicopter children at the level that parents typically do?