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should have never been a male/female differentiator. Sorry, you'll have to take up that one with the big guy upstairs. The truth is, if you cry, women will be

should have never been a male/female differentiator. Sorry, you'll have to take up that one with the big guy upstairs. The truth is, if you cry, women will be less attracted to you. They will think you are nice and sweet and they will laud your ability to show your emotions. But they will not want to f--k you. Women are attracted to strength and command. Crying is in fact a symptom of weakness. Your brain only sends you the crying signal for things that are outside your control - a death, a failed harvest, getting fired, getting dumped, etc. Crying is the programmed tactic for woman and children who can only get what they want by convincing someone stronger than them to help them out. I agree that TV/Movies are a terrible way to learn how to be a man. The worst for me were the sweet-nerd-guy-gets-the-hot-girl-by-being-sweet movies of the 90's (Can't Hardly Wait, Ten Things I Hate About You, etc). That never happens in real life and messed me up. The genetics of attraction have not changed in the past few hundred years, so it makes no sense to keep changing the messaging.

jsprogrammer 11y ago
>The worst for me were the sweet-nerd-guy-gets-the-hot-girl-by-being-sweet movies of the 90's I thought those movies were "sweet nerd girl gets the hot guy by being secretly hot"? You seem to have some very absolute beliefs (eg. Women are attracted to strength and command; crying is in fact a symptom of weakness, etc. etc). How do you justify them?
- darkroasted 11y ago
  I thought those movies were "sweet nerd girl gets the hot guy by being secretly hot"? There were those too, there were both types of movies. You seem to have some very absolute beliefs (eg. Women are attracted to strength and command; crying is in fact a symtom of weakness, etc. etc). How do you justify them? A bunch of life experience; trading stories and confessions with male and female friends over drinks; reading lots of books, ranging from bios and famous literature to books by dating coaches to books on the science of genes and evolution. My statements were slightly blunt and simplified. But I think that as broad generalizations, they are pretty bloody obvious if you just pay attention in life.
rauljara 11y ago
"Sorry, you'll have to take up that one with the big guy upstairs. The truth is, if you cry, women will be less attracted to you. They will think you are nice and sweet and they will laud your ability to show your emotions. But they will not want to f--k you. Women are attracted to strength and command." Forgive me for the harsh response, but what absolutely sexist bs. I am sure there exist some women are exactly how you described. But saying "women are" attracted to one thing or another is just as stupid as describing all men as slobbering idiots who only like blondes or all italians as plumbers obsessed with hopping on goombas.
- darkroasted 11y ago
  In the world we actually live in, sexism is true. Men and women are different. Now obviously, there is great variation among human beings. While men are generally physically strong than women, obviously a very small percentage of women can bench press more than the median man. But when the number of exceptions in a general pattern is small, say less than 5%, then I drop the qualifiers because qualifiers make for lousy writing. It is better English and still fully truthful to make a statement like, "men are stronger than woman" rather than the statement "on average men are stronger than woman" because the number of exceptions to the generalization is quite small. I feel quite confident in saying that >95% of women will experience an increase in romantic attraction to a man who shows strength and command, and will be less attracted to a man who cries because his boss chewed him out. I base this on hundreds, possibly thousands of data points from my own experience and the shared experience of others. "But saying "women are" attracted to one thing or another is just as stupid as describing all men as slobbering idiots who only like blondes or all italians as plumbers obsessed with hopping on goombas." This analogy is so bad that can I only surmise that you are actively arguing in bad faith. Again, every woman I know is more attracted to a man when he performs feats of strength and command. No Italians I know are plumbers obsessed with jumping on goombas. So no, your analogy is terrible. Meta question -- why did you make such a willfully stupid analogy?

jsprogrammer 11y ago

>The worst for me were the sweet-nerd-guy-gets-the-hot-girl-by-being-sweet movies of the 90's I thought those movies were "sweet nerd girl gets the hot guy by being secretly hot"? You seem to have some very absolute beliefs (eg. Women are attracted to strength and command; crying is in fact a symptom of weakness, etc. etc). How do you justify them?

darkroasted 11y ago
I thought those movies were "sweet nerd girl gets the hot guy by being secretly hot"? There were those too, there were both types of movies. You seem to have some very absolute beliefs (eg. Women are attracted to strength and command; crying is in fact a symtom of weakness, etc. etc). How do you justify them? A bunch of life experience; trading stories and confessions with male and female friends over drinks; reading lots of books, ranging from bios and famous literature to books by dating coaches to books on the science of genes and evolution. My statements were slightly blunt and simplified. But I think that as broad generalizations, they are pretty bloody obvious if you just pay attention in life.

rauljara 11y ago

"Sorry, you'll have to take up that one with the big guy upstairs. The truth is, if you cry, women will be less attracted to you. They will think you are nice and sweet and they will laud your ability to show your emotions. But they will not want to f--k you. Women are attracted to strength and command." Forgive me for the harsh response, but what absolutely sexist bs. I am sure there exist some women are exactly how you described. But saying "women are" attracted to one thing or another is just as stupid as describing all men as slobbering idiots who only like blondes or all italians as plumbers obsessed with hopping on goombas.

darkroasted 11y ago
In the world we actually live in, sexism is true. Men and women are different. Now obviously, there is great variation among human beings. While men are generally physically strong than women, obviously a very small percentage of women can bench press more than the median man. But when the number of exceptions in a general pattern is small, say less than 5%, then I drop the qualifiers because qualifiers make for lousy writing. It is better English and still fully truthful to make a statement like, "men are stronger than woman" rather than the statement "on average men are stronger than woman" because the number of exceptions to the generalization is quite small. I feel quite confident in saying that >95% of women will experience an increase in romantic attraction to a man who shows strength and command, and will be less attracted to a man who cries because his boss chewed him out. I base this on hundreds, possibly thousands of data points from my own experience and the shared experience of others. "But saying "women are" attracted to one thing or another is just as stupid as describing all men as slobbering idiots who only like blondes or all italians as plumbers obsessed with hopping on goombas." This analogy is so bad that can I only surmise that you are actively arguing in bad faith. Again, every woman I know is more attracted to a man when he performs feats of strength and command. No Italians I know are plumbers obsessed with jumping on goombas. So no, your analogy is terrible. Meta question -- why did you make such a willfully stupid analogy?