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It's not just crying that men have a tough time doing. I'd never had an American male friend I could talk about feelings with. I'm sure they exist, but they're

It's not just crying that men have a tough time doing. I'd never had an American male friend I could talk about feelings with. I'm sure they exist, but they're rare. In Denmark, I make dinner with male friends. Just two of us. Making dinner. And we talk about women, and about feelings. One even lit a candle once, because that's cozier. Sound gay? I thought so too. That was my problem that I had to get over.

jsprogrammer 11y ago
Congratulations on overcoming your problem.
sridca 11y ago
Not crying is merely a symptom of a larger problem of hiding one's feelings, much less talk about it. It is more important to be aware of the ongoing feelings and understand their operation (self-awareness leads to change). Moreover it is not necessary to gushingly express those emotions -- like those SNAGs and feminal men[1] do -- especially as the social context is all against men expressing vulnerability. In my opinion, this is the single greatest boulder that men as a whole need to get over. If we do not understand our emotions, we will never understand how other people manipulate those emotions to get what they want. [1] Chinweizu wrote in "The Anatomy of Female Power": The modern musho (the new or feminal man) is one of that breed of diffident men who have been bullied, guilt-tripped, ego-bashed and penis-twisted into pram pushing, diaper changing and breast envy. He is the befuddled, henpecked male who lacks the wit to recognizee his male interest. He is one of those male wives of female husbands who have been described, in Julie Burchill's apt phrases, as the "bleeding hearts" and "crying males" who make up "the walking wounded" of the modern sex war. The more articulate musho even becomes a missionary for his hen's anti-male views. This pathetic wimp is, quite naturally, hailed by feminists as the "new man".

jsprogrammer 11y ago

Congratulations on overcoming your problem.

sridca 11y ago

Not crying is merely a symptom of a larger problem of hiding one's feelings, much less talk about it. It is more important to be aware of the ongoing feelings and understand their operation (self-awareness leads to change). Moreover it is not necessary to gushingly express those emotions -- like those SNAGs and feminal men[1] do -- especially as the social context is all against men expressing vulnerability. In my opinion, this is the single greatest boulder that men as a whole need to get over. If we do not understand our emotions, we will never understand how other people manipulate those emotions to get what they want. [1] Chinweizu wrote in "The Anatomy of Female Power": The modern musho (the new or feminal man) is one of that breed of diffident men who have been bullied, guilt-tripped, ego-bashed and penis-twisted into pram pushing, diaper changing and breast envy. He is the befuddled, henpecked male who lacks the wit to recognizee his male interest. He is one of those male wives of female husbands who have been described, in Julie Burchill's apt phrases, as the "bleeding hearts" and "crying males" who make up "the walking wounded" of the modern sex war. The more articulate musho even becomes a missionary for his hen's anti-male views. This pathetic wimp is, quite naturally, hailed by feminists as the "new man".