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I'm sooooo sorry for you. Here's a story and some advice. My grandfather was born in a small village in Poland. He's younger brother died in infancy. His older

by mdomans 11y ago

I'm sooooo sorry for you. Here's a story and some advice. My grandfather was born in a small village in Poland. He's younger brother died in infancy. His older brother was blown up to pieces during the war. My grandfather worked as a foreman in a steel mill. He also kept bees and animals. And he built his own house. To this day, I have the shovel he used to dig the foundations himself. The handle got impregnated with his sweat and body oils. It looks as if someone put varnish on it. Personally, I've been working since being legally able to (16) and only stopped for 1 year of Uni, then found a company I wanted to work with and made anything I was able to to get hired. I haven't had a break longer than 1 week since that day. Burnout is only in your mind. Burnout means you never pushed yourself hard enough and that you never really wanted anything in your life hard enough. My advice for you is: stop being sorry for yourself, take a cold shower, drink a coffee and get on with your life. You only get one, achieve something - you can behave burnt out when you're old.

mdomans 11y ago
And here's an image of Ron Swanson for you http://www.wrestlescoop.com/anonymousjunkyard/wallpaper/uploads/Television/Parks%20and%20Recreation/Ron%20Swanson/ron-swanson-wallpaper-02.jpg http://www.wrestlescoop.com/anonymousjunkyard/wallpaper/uplo...
- kohanz 11y ago
  I honestly didn't get that your post was parody/sarcasm without the photo.
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  - mdomans 11y ago
    To an extent it was. Although I honestly think people overuse word 'burnout' a lot
burnout_tmp 11y ago
Your advice is pretty off to be honest. I'm sure your grandfather was a wonderful man and I don't mean to belittle him by belittling your point, but what you're saying isn't helpful at all to OP. For example, I also got a job out of school, except mine was during the financial crisis at a company where I routinely was working 65-70 hours a week. My salary went to paying bills for my family, while I helped with my fathers foundering business because the economy was so terrible, and treatment for my mother who was having a breakdown caused by her having a serious debilitating illness. Eventually our house was foreclosed on. I remember packing all of our things into plastic trashbags the night that we were foreclosed on and waking up the next morning to go to work. I didn't have the luxury of stopping, even for an instant. We fought our way out, but it's not like I didn't come out of things unscathed. It's not as impressive as your grandfather and I certainly don't mean to compare myself to him, but everyone has a story to tell. You can't just wave one anecdote in someone's face to invalidate their experience. It's a nice meme to say that burnout's all in the mind, but you don't know anything about OP, and you certainly don't know anything about the mass majority of people who've had to balance immensely stressful work situations with immensely stressful personal situations. Maybe you should be more measured in your words instead of being presumptuous about OP's drive or character.
- LifeQuestioner 11y ago
  Thanks...in my case you're actually quite correct I think =). I was in foster care homes at various points. My drive and inspiration and the only reason I got to university. Because I wanted to be in a position to help my real family. Like yourself I had family members who kept having breakdowns. I remember having taken my Mum into hospital after a suicide attempt and i'd go take an exam the next morning on only 2 hours sleep, desperate to still get the grades to get into uni. Which is why this issue of burnout has gotten to me so much. How is it I can content with running on several hours of sleep for a few months whilst pushing myself to somehow do exams when I could barely read the questions I was so tired.. and not reach burnout... And yet now, I have. It doesn't seem logical. But it seems I was at least focusing on something I was passionate about(goal to help my family in the future) and at work I have not been. Low salary sometimes paid weeks late, not mentally stimulating...essentially going against the very thing I wanted to be able to do. Help my family. Your post has helped me to work that out, thanks!

by mdomans 11y ago

mdomans 11y ago

And here's an image of Ron Swanson for you http://www.wrestlescoop.com/anonymousjunkyard/wallpaper/uploads/Television/Parks%20and%20Recreation/Ron%20Swanson/ron-swanson-wallpaper-02.jpg http://www.wrestlescoop.com/anonymousjunkyard/wallpaper/uplo...

kohanz 11y ago
I honestly didn't get that your post was parody/sarcasm without the photo.
- deleted 11y ago
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- mdomans 11y ago
  To an extent it was. Although I honestly think people overuse word 'burnout' a lot

burnout_tmp 11y ago

Your advice is pretty off to be honest. I'm sure your grandfather was a wonderful man and I don't mean to belittle him by belittling your point, but what you're saying isn't helpful at all to OP. For example, I also got a job out of school, except mine was during the financial crisis at a company where I routinely was working 65-70 hours a week. My salary went to paying bills for my family, while I helped with my fathers foundering business because the economy was so terrible, and treatment for my mother who was having a breakdown caused by her having a serious debilitating illness. Eventually our house was foreclosed on. I remember packing all of our things into plastic trashbags the night that we were foreclosed on and waking up the next morning to go to work. I didn't have the luxury of stopping, even for an instant. We fought our way out, but it's not like I didn't come out of things unscathed. It's not as impressive as your grandfather and I certainly don't mean to compare myself to him, but everyone has a story to tell. You can't just wave one anecdote in someone's face to invalidate their experience. It's a nice meme to say that burnout's all in the mind, but you don't know anything about OP, and you certainly don't know anything about the mass majority of people who've had to balance immensely stressful work situations with immensely stressful personal situations. Maybe you should be more measured in your words instead of being presumptuous about OP's drive or character.

LifeQuestioner 11y ago
Thanks...in my case you're actually quite correct I think =). I was in foster care homes at various points. My drive and inspiration and the only reason I got to university. Because I wanted to be in a position to help my real family. Like yourself I had family members who kept having breakdowns. I remember having taken my Mum into hospital after a suicide attempt and i'd go take an exam the next morning on only 2 hours sleep, desperate to still get the grades to get into uni. Which is why this issue of burnout has gotten to me so much. How is it I can content with running on several hours of sleep for a few months whilst pushing myself to somehow do exams when I could barely read the questions I was so tired.. and not reach burnout... And yet now, I have. It doesn't seem logical. But it seems I was at least focusing on something I was passionate about(goal to help my family in the future) and at work I have not been. Low salary sometimes paid weeks late, not mentally stimulating...essentially going against the very thing I wanted to be able to do. Help my family. Your post has helped me to work that out, thanks!