There was a great comment on metafilter by `a fiendish thingy` a few months back about one interpretation of this idea of headship: I have two friends (who

There was a great comment on metafilter by `a fiendish thingy` a few months back about one interpretation of this idea of headship: I have two friends (who are married) who believe in biblical standards of the husband being the head of the household. HOWEVER. They are also outspoken feminists (both of them), and their belief in marital headship is based on their belief that a man’s job as the head of household who has been gifted with an outsize amount of cultural privilege is to actively fight patriarchy and bolster his wife’s human dignity in a culture attempting to diminish her personhood. (Like, head of household is a metaphor for Jesus being the head of the church, and Jesus died for the church, so they believe the head of the household should be constantly throwing himself on the sword of patriarchy to elevate his wife to her rightful place of equality, instead of expecting her to constantly be the person dealing with toxic misogyny all by herself. So headship in their marriage is not “I am in charge, fetch me my slippers,” but “As the privileged partner, I am charged with a special responsibility of helping us realize equality within our marriage and our world”.) http://ask.metafilter.com/283189/Emotional-Labor-Checklist-Self-Assessment#4103322 http://ask.metafilter.com/283189/Emotional-Labor-Checklist-S...