I don't understand how this women is the main victim here. There is a person who holds a prejudice of expecting people in nerdy fields to be ugly, and she break

I don't understand how this women is the main victim here. There is a person who holds a prejudice of expecting people in nerdy fields to be ugly, and she breaks that expectation. Is she the one who suffers from it, or is it all the other people he interacts with and thinks "yeah, just another ugly nerd"? This is anti-nerd more than anti-woman.